(Closed) fiancee cheated

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Im sorry girl that you went through this, and that you still are. Counselling is a good way to go.

I really dont have much advice part from that and Im sorry to hear that it has happened. *hugs from half way round the world to you*

Post # 4
255 posts
Helper bee

Oh god you poor thing. Thinking of you and sending you all my strength xxx

Sorry I can’t offer any advice that seems to matter, just take one day at a time. You will get through this. x

Post # 5
1020 posts
Bumble bee

*huuuuuugs* i’m sorry you are going through this and don’t know what is a good advise to give you, but i think it’s good that you are reaching out to us, i know there are many people here who can give you great advise. stay strong 🙂

Post # 6
149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I just wanted to say how sorry I am you are going through this. I can understand how hard it can be to just end a relationship with someone you love but also hard to go on the way it used to be. I think if your going to keep him in your life there can be no other chances or excuses for this behavior. I don’t think everyone who cheats is evil or meant to be malicious — but I also think its a very serious weakness to it happening again. I think its a good idea to take your time, think things through and pinpoint what you really want to do from here are in. Be as honest as you can be with yourself on what you really want and expect — and on whether or not he is the type of person who can provide you with it in the end.

Hope it all works out for the best for you! Take care.

Post # 7
860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My heart really goes out to you. 

The only advice I have is to take your time.  Counseling is a great idea.  Get to know yourself and figure out if this is something you could forgive, or if it would be better for you to move on.  If you do get back together, you have to be able to trust him again.  Resentment and jealousy are really unhealthy.

I hope everything works out for you.

Post # 8
5976 posts
Bee Keeper

I just wanted to echo everything the previous posters have said. I’m so sorry this happened to you – and I don’t know why such terrible things happen to such good people. Counseling is going to help you with this, and I’m so glad that you decided to start it. Only time is going to be able to heal you, and right now, I think it’s great that you’re focusing on yourself. It’s so hard to go from marrying someone one day to him breaking your trust like that. You’re a very strong person for dealing with this head on.

I’m sorry that I don’t have a whole lot of advice, but feel free to continue to vent on here if you need to. All the best to you!

Post # 9
4544 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m so sorry hun! ***HUGS*** It sounds like you have a good handle on the situation and are trying to figure out what’s best for you. Only you can know that so take your time and figure out if you can trust him again or not. I’ve always felt that if my Fiance, DH, whatever, cheated on me the relationship would be over but I’ve never been in that situation and wouldn’t know what I’d really end up deciding.

Post # 10
6659 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Oh goodness, you poor thing! I don’t need to tell you that you are doing the right thing because you already know. It’s not going to be an easy road I’m sure, but we are here for you!

Post # 11
2702 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

(((HUGGSSSS))) i am SO SO SO SO SO verry sorry that you are going through this, i pray that with time you can figure out the best direction for you and that (With or without him) you find happiness and trust once again.

Post # 12
1675 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Wow, this is a tough one.  On the plus side, it sounds like he is taking all of the right steps to make a genuine change in his life.  I’m not sure he would be doing all of these things (counseling, mediation, & AA) if he wasn’t committed to being a better man for you.  On the other side though, he did something really terrible that made you lose all of your trust in him, and trust is *not* easy to earn back.  I’d say give it some serious time.  Take things slowly, and time will tell if things will work out.  But if he does slip up again, you should leave him for good, for your own sake.  I know you said you’re both doing counseling individually, but would you also be up for joint counseling?  That might help you guys to work through some of your issues together too…

Post # 13
5887 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

so very sorry you are going through this….to be clear, you didn’t go through with the wedding, right?

Post # 14
2007 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I’m so sorry.  Although it wasn’t with an ex-wife I’ve been in your shoes.  We’re working it out and are going to come through the situation stronger than we were before.  If you want to chat, feel free to PM me.  It’s not an easy road.  I’m so sorry. 

Post # 15
478 posts
Helper bee

Oh my gosh sweetie, I am SO sorry this happened to you. I would definitely take some “you time” to figure things out. I know you have feelings for him, but make sure you take a long hard look at your options so you make the right decision. Know what you deserve and don’t settle for anything less. Time will heal, and your judgement will be less foggy. In the mean time, keep your chin up. You are worthy of being loved, just know that. 🙂

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