(Closed) fiancee cheated

posted 12 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
3930 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@annie777: so relieved to hear this….maybe that is your silver lining, then….thank GOD you found out before the wedding and didn’t find out AFTER marrying him.  

Post # 18
8941 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m so sorry.  It sounds like you two are working on figuring out what will be the best decision for the both of you.  I hope you figure out what will make you happiest, whether that is with or without him.

Post # 19
1476 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Oh, honey. Just stay strong. You did the right thing. I don’t know what to say…. I just think you’re amazing for not accepting that and being such a strong lady. HUGS to you.

Post # 21
249 posts
Helper bee

I agree with Ms. Meowerson, while its a terrible thing that happened to you and I am so sorry, it is better that you found out before rather than after!

I really really hate to ask, and please don’t think that I am attacking you or saying that you deserved this in any way, but is this his ex wife because he found you while they were still together and left her for you? This happened to me a few years ago.  I am not proud of it but I was the “other woman” before.  They were not married, just dating but we started hanging out and talking (nothing serious happened) and he left her for me. Well, a few months later, he cheated on me.  I was devastated.  A friend  told me something that stuck with me, if he was willing to “cheat” on his partner to be with you, why would you think that he wouldn’t eventually do it to you??  Again, I am sorry if I am completely off base here and please don’t think that I am attacking you.  I just realized that even though this guy apologized, this was his character and I couldn’t deal with that.  I am glad I learned that lesson young and I chalk ever putting myself in the position to be the other woman as being a dumb kid. 

I am really sorry this happened to you though, ((HUGS))

Post # 22
694 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Wishing you nothing but the best in this difficult time!  Be strong and take your time.  I hope everything works out for you, whether you end up resolving the issues to move forward with him or on your own!  You will find happiness again 🙂 

Post # 23
103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

BIG VIRTUAL HUGS!! It sounds like you’re doing pretty good so i just wanted to say that you are amazingly strong and handling this like a mature woman.  Once you organize your feelings and thoughts, I’m sure you’ll make the right decision for you.  Just remember that you deserve the best.  Goodluck and I am sorry that you had to cancel the wedding.  <hugs>

Post # 24
1485 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Oh my goodness, I am so sorry to hear this.  I can’t give any better advice than what the pp’s have posted, but you are in my thoughts.

Post # 26
142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

i wouldnt marry him…think about it, his ex wife divorced him for a reason but he’s still seeing her..that will most likely be you one day..im sure you can do better

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