Fiancee following nude girls Instagram

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Helper bee

Honestly? This does not seem like an issue to me at all. If it is bothering you so much I would talk to him again and tell him exactly what you have posted here. Including the part where you feel like you are “getting fat.” Then I would buck up a bit. This is the least of your concerns on the internet. 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

So is the girl he follows someone he knows? If so I can see how that is definitely a problem. If she isn’t and is truly some random girl, I don’t see how that’s different than following models (which you seem to be ok with). I agree adding the snapchat account to see more is over kill. I would calmly express to him again that you aren’t comfortable with him following her and you hope he respects you enough to respect your wishes. Maybe suggest looking at porn together during sexy time to help reignite some passion since you said you haven’t felt sexy yourself. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

So are they actually nude? I’m social media illiterate apparently bc I thought the TOS for most sites banned that stuff.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

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jrh003 :  Sometimes people need to hear things a second time. It is not ideal, but maybe he did not get it the first time. No matter what if it is still bothering you you should talk to him again and just say “I know we talked about it but I am still hurt…”  

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Premier Ballroom

I would confront him again. Everyone’s relationship is different, but I would be bothered by it too. Especially if he is going out of his way to still search that specific girl after he unfollowed her. State that you’re uncomfortable, it doesn’t even matter if it is someone he knows or not, or if it was another situation you wouldn’t be uncomfortable, what matters is that in this case you are uncomfortable and it’s something unnecessary. Put your feelings out on the table, and look into his reactions. Maybe suggest that you are into both of you watching porn or whatever, but you feel uncomfortable when he does it alone.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Umm he does NOT get to freak out at you looking at nude men if he is doing the exact same thing. Does he not understand what a gross double standard that is?

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

I think his behavior is inappropriate, mostly watching the Snapchat  videos. I think men don’t see it as a problem bc basically it’s the new norm. 

Porn is different than this. You can’t DM the pornstar and be friends. Why are these women doing this? Are they prostitutes? Idk, that just doesn’t sit well with me.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

A friend of mine had a similar problem, it caused constant arguments in their relationship. In the end, they both deleted all their social media accounts. Personally, I think she should have deleted the guy from her life.

Is it really that hard to respect your partner’s wishes? To care about their feelings? To just stop looking at an Instagram account you’ve specifically said upsets you? The fact that he would put looking at random women on IG above your feelings is gross. 

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

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dentalbee :  I hate to tell you this, but, you can actually DM pornstars and get responses/build relationships. If you’re willing to buy them gifts off their Amazon lists or provide money in some way. They’ll also chat you up so that you’ll buy their exclusive content from their websites.

Porn is nothing if not customer service, the smart ones know that. 

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