(Closed) Fiancee Guestlist Nightmare: *Help*

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@lagemmapreziosa:  I think he is being pretty selfish. If you have enough people that you WANT to invite, I say you should be entitled to half of the guest list, and when you run out of “must haves” you can fill in those extra spaces with whoever the both of you choose. I would not invite people in hopes that they won’t come, at least not a significant number. Even half of them decline, that’s still ALOT of people.

Post # 4
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426 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My Fiance did pretty much the exact same thing. Though he has nearly no family, he has absolutely TONS of friends, from all over the world – far more than I do. He also wants to invite a large group of people that were “with him as he grew up” whenever he visited America…. after much frustration, I have allowed it and am okay with it now. But even with everyone invited, we only have about 250 people invited, and maybe 100 will actually show up. I’m not sure about in your situation.. it seems like you will have around 300+ people?? Is he really sure they wont show up? Think about the invitations as well – that is a ton of money for invites alone.

Post # 5
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14 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011
Post # 6
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14 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@leafgum:  

This is really funny because my husband said almost that exact thing!  He wanted to invite a bunch of his old friends that he grew up with even though he doesn’t hang out with them anymore.  It was annoying because our wedding cost about $60 per head and we couldn’t really afford to pay for all of those people.  But I regret it now, I feel like I handled the situation badly. Some advice, make sure you talk to him about it, don’t just keep it inside.  How are you handling it? 

Post # 7
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426 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@AnnaFinch84:  I’m not sure if your last question was directed towards me, but I’ll answer it anyways! I got over it. I wanted a small intimate park wedding, but now it’ll just be…a bit bigger, and with more people I don’t know! It’s okay, though. The wedding is very informal and there is no sit down dinner, so the “price per head” is probably like $5, if that, haha. There’ll still be good music and an awesome dance, and my favourite people will be there, so I’m set.

Post # 9
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786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

An announcement is traditionally sent immediately after the wedding to announce you as husband and wife, and to let people know that you got married. Typically, people do this when they have a very small or destination wedding to which most people are not invited. If I were having a wedding with 150-180 people, I wouldn’t send this. To me, it would be like rubbing it in peoples’ faces that they didn’t make the cut (while 180 other people did).

I think if you send something beforehand, it will also just be awkward (as you are literally saying we’re getting married, you’re not invited). People understand that folks have budgets and guest list constraints. Its just part of budgeting and being an adult. If you don’t have the money to invite all the people you’re fiance would like, then you just cant do it.

Also, not sure that this exact thread with your same reply needs to be posted in 3 seperate boards. Just fyi.

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

This is a duplicate posting so I’m going to close it.  Please go here to comment!

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