(Closed) Fiancee is suddenly a wedding expert.

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

Why don’t you give him a few things that are 100% his and let him run with them? 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@Mrs. Mink:  I second this. My husband kept flipping between completely apathetic to Mr. Wedding Planner every few days. We finally sat down and went through the to-do list and picked things for him to be 100% in charge of. Worked like a charm!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

@Mrs. Mink:  great advice! 

If you picked something that you didn’t necessarily care about and gave him complete control over it, or made him a list that you can hand over on the next cloudy day, that will probably get him to back off.

I would also start recording when you ask him to do things and he says no, so that you can remind him that he didn’t want to help next time he says you’re not involving him.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Awww…I understand mamacita! I’m an event planner too. Boo-cakes is a project manager, so he thinks he’s also a wedding expert–except he’s not. At all, lol. I just had to do the “little woman” thing and act helpless about a few projects and handed them right over to him. And he executed everything to a tee. Maybe not exactly the way I would have done it, but it made him feel useful and it was more than acceptable! Maybe try that?

 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

double post. My b.
 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@bretonvirgniia:  Aw give him a little credit. :p Or give him a deadline. If the deadline passes and he hasn’t done the task, then he loses the right to bitch about it!

Post # 13
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Busy bee

@misspeanut:  I like that.

Give him something TINY, that shouldn’t take long, and then if he doesn’t have it done in time have a sit down with him about why he’s being all flip floppy. Is it just a bad day or is there something in particular about your plans that he hates all of a sudden? 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

Mr. Mink took on a few things that excited him (two were beer related).  One was completed last minute (putting labels on our favors), but it was completed and it was just fine.  🙂

 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@bretonvirgniia:  Well I don’t know what you’ve got on your list, but these are a few things I put my husband in charge of and he surprisingly got done on time! Picking out the groomsmen attire and making sure everyone ordered on time, building the cupcake display tiers for the reception, figure out the beer/wine selections, give me a list of his must have/do no want songs for the DJ, handle arrangements for our hotel the night of the wedding and our mode of transportation. It was mostly little things that I was entirely comfortable letting someone else take care of. But I gave him deadlines and told him if he didn’t do it, he couldn’t complain about what I did to complete the tasks!

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

@bretonvirgniia:  are there any small, trivial things- like finding something to put in the flower arrangements, or writing a poem for/ creating a signature drink? 

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