(Closed) Fiance’s Bachelor Party

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Whats he doing at the party thats so terrible your parents can’t know? because really, parents are people too, and they usually know whats going to go down at those types of parties. Anyways, if other girls are invited, its kinda harsh he won’t let his own blood line come to his celebration.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would tell him to talk to his future brother in law about it and explain how he feels. Maybe the brother in law will be able to talk some sense into the sister!

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

What other girls are invited to your fiances bachelor party? That part I find odd. Also, other than drinking copious amounts of alcohol what terrible behavior will be occurring?

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@KolalaKitty: I’d be more concerned that she and her beau would be more interested in each other than having fun at the party and mingling.  That’s kinda how it’s coming off to me.

Honestly, I wouldn’t want to invite family, especially if she gets what she wants ALL the time.  No offense, but she needs to grow up.  

Don’t get me wrong, I COMPLETELY understand where she’s coming from, but I try to compromise.  Usually.  Sometimes, there are things where I’m like “not without me, you aren’t!”  But those are more like all-day deals and parties where I really wanna go, have been invited, and it all depends on if my parents will watch our young kids.

Is this going to be an all day/all night deal?  How long will it be?  Is it possible for everyone to compromise and the sister’s Fiance just be there for a few hours then go back home/meet her somewhere later?  

Example: Fiance was going to mutual friend’s wedding rehersal.  My Fiance typically works weekends and would’ve been gone nearly ALL DAY between the drive over, rehersal and drive back.  So, we compromised.  He dropped me off at the mall, went to the rehersal, came back to mall where the kids and I were.  

We did the same thing, without the kids, when he went to the same friend’s mini bachelor party.  I got dropped off at the mall, he went to hang with the friend for a couple hours, then came back to me and we had lunch before going home.

 

Would something like that work?  It would be a good compromise all around.  She would get time with her Fiance, he would get to go to the party, and everyone should be happy.  IF she’s going to be mature about it.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

She’s not invited.  Period.  Cool

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I agree w/ Ryna, that they will prob be in a corner together, not being social.

I also agree that I wouldn’t want my parents to know a play by play about my party – I think asking “what will be happening at the party” is irrelevant. If his parents are anything like mine – just the fact of “getting drunk” would be frowned upon.

It really looks like he has two options: invite sister, or dis-invite Brother-In-Law (but by dis-inviting this could create drama) so if I were him, I would just invite her and spend more time w/ the rest of the party. As far as the play by play – so be it, we can’t always please our parents 😉

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree with Ryna, the sister doesn’t sound like someone who is going to be appeased easily, so a compromise might be the only solution.  It sounds to me like she wants to spend time with her Fiance more than go to the bachelor party.  Perhaps she and her Fiance can go out to dinner and then he can meet up with the party later on.  Maybe if she can get the time she wants with her Fiance she’ll give up on going out to the party later on.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Uhm, I just find it incredibly childish that she can’t let him have one night out on his own. It’s not the entire weekend. It’s ONE night. I don’t blame your Fiance for not wanting her there and quite frankly she’s being a b*tch by pushing the whole thing and involving their parents. She’s being a total brat and I wouldn’t give into her demands just based on principal. If his Future Brother-In-Law wants to come then he just needs to grow a pair and tell her so. You guys just need to lay out the rules and then rest is between them.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

just say no

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Just tell her no and move on. Don’t play into the whining and complaining.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@KolalaKitty: Does the sister’s Fiance want her there? I can’t imagine that he would…it seems strange to be that the sister wants to be there as well!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

That’s so weird.  And I totally understand a brother not wanting his baby sister at his bachelor party.  My brother and I are close, but he doesn’t want to picture/think of me in compromising situations, and he certainly wouldn’t want me around if he’s in a weird setting.  Plus the whole freaking point of a bachelor party is not have laid back no-judgment fun with your buddies.

It’s too bad he wants other girls there, because the no girls allowed thing would be the standard excuse.  But I would just say, hands down, she’s not invited.  And if that means that she won’t allow her fiance to go, then that’s too bad but that’s his problem.  Your fiance is not obligated to throw off the dynamic of his entire celebration just to appease his bratty sister.

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