- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
*caution – I’m long winded*
My fiance is looking for some help and I’m not sure what to tell him. My fiance’s sister is also getting married this year, in Sept. actually. My fiance wants/wanted to invite his future brother in law to his bachelor party but he didn’t know his phone number. He called his sister to get it so he could pass it along to his best man who’s setting up the party.
Now his sister is demanding that she be invited to the bachelor party. Normally we could just say “no girls allowed!” except that my fiance has other girls on the guest list already, so that doesn’t work.
Her reasoning is that she works every single weekend and never gets to see her fiance anymore, and her only free weekend except for the weekend of our wedding is the same weekend as my fiance’s bachelor party. She doesn’t want her fiance to go because she wants him to spend the time with her, and as opposed to just asking him not to go, her solution is she should come along as well.
My fiance doesn’t want his sister to come. He loves her, she’s his sister, but it’s his party and he has a pretty good idea of what’s going to happen (though he doesn’t have all the details) and he’s almost certain that she’s going to get really upset/uncomfortable about it as she’s not a partier/bar go-er/heavy drinker/etc. He tried to explain this to her but she doesn’t seem to care and keeps telling him “it’ll be fine!”
His sister also has a small problem with being a little too willing to share information with everyone. So if she does come to the party, anything and everything that happens will get back to his parents. My fiance isn’t sure he wants to deal with the flack he’ll get from his parents if something should happen that they wouldn’t necessarily agree with. Going this route he might as well invite his parents to come along too cause they’ll know every single detail about it anyway before everything is said and done.
His sister is the baby of the family, and his/her parents still baby her and give in to her quite a bit. Apparently she whined to her parents about how John said he didn’t want her to go. So this morning he got a phone call from his mom about how he’s being mean because he wont let/doesn’t want her go and he hurt his sisters feelings and wont he reconsider?
He’s to the point he’s going to have to give in and let her go, or have her fiance dis-invited (the best man told us he’s already talked to his sister’s fiance and got the “I’ll be there!” from him) which is a horrible thing to do at this point.
We’re looking for any help on the situation we can get. Is there anything or any other way we can word it so as to convince her this would be a bad idea? Should he go ahead and let his sister come? Or should he disinvite the future bro in law?
Thanks for any help you can give us.