Post # 1
One of my fiance’s groomsmen called me and asked to send him a list of our guests that would be interested in attending the bachelor party. I know that all of his groomsmen and male friends are a given, but what about male cousins? He is close with some, but not so much with others. Also, most of his cousins live a few states away- so whats the etiquette on inviting people for a pre wedding event that live far away? Without cousins, there would be 13 invites. With cousins, there would be 22. What should I do? Who is going to be/ was at your fiance’s bachelor party?
Post # 3
Hmm. I’m letting my Fiance pick who he wants to be invited, and that’s what I’d recommend to you — even if it’s going to be a surprise, he can still provide a list without knowing when it’ll be, right?
Post # 4
Is it going to be a surprise bachelor party? If not, the groomsman should be asking your fiance for the guest list…after all, its his party.
Post # 5
Yeah, I think the groomsman that called me wants it to be a surprise. I agree with you both though; maybe he should choose his guests since it is his party. Do you think I should call his groomsman and ask to change it to a non surprise party?
Post # 6
I’m pretty sure that even though it’s a surprise, your Fiance knows that there will be a bachelor party. I’d run it by the planner, but there’s no reason why your Fiance shouldn’t be involved in the guest list. My Fiance wanted his bachelor party REALLY small (as in, just his groomsmen and not even all of them). There’s no reason it doesn’t have to be a surprise party, just not a surprise guest list.
Post # 7
My Fiance had definate opinions about his guest list – of course, they did a whole weekend away (fancy golf resort). He wanted it very small – only his closest friends. I would make sure that he is involved in choosing the guest list, and that he has some input to the activities, so that he doesn’t end up with some kind of party that he doesn’t really want.
Post # 8
for our joint shower, our Maid/Matron of Honor asked for a guest list. beyond that, all we know is the date and time – the rest is a complete surprise.
i would imagine the same type of thing could be pulled of for your FI’s bachelor. your Fiance is probably expecting some sort of bachelor party, so the existence of said party shouldn’t be a shocker; contributing to a guest list doesn’t preclude the rest of the details from being a surprise.