(Closed) fiance's disastrous hair cut before family wedding

posted 4 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
357 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2005

He probably doesn’t want you to take one, but can we get a picture?  It’s hard to advise without seeing what we’re dealing with.

If it’s 1/4″ all over, you’re kind of SOL.  If there’s a little more length on the top, there might be some options.  The good news is that the look will definitely soften in a couple weeks.  It’s probably going to take a few months to get back to what you’re used to, but he shouldn’t look totally scalped by the wedding.

Post # 4
437 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

@moriah:  +1

in two weeks it should definitely be longer (about 1/4-1/2″) but its not going to be back to normal 🙁 

Post # 5
2809 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

i agree with PP’s- his hair won’t be grown back in 2 weeks. it might be slightly longer, but it won’t be normal. you may be able to have it “faded” after it grows a bit, so that it doesn’t look like a military buzz job. but it won’t return to normal for a while.

i speak from experience. my FI’s hair grows super fast compared to mine, but never more than like, 1/2″ in a month. he usually buzzes his whole head to like, less than 1/4″ long. and then a month later, does it again. he never likes his hair longer than that. he overheats.

Post # 7
7564 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I’m not sure how you can style buzzed hair. A few weeks of growth won’t restore his lovely locks but it will make it look less awkward. 

Post # 8
1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Massage his scalp daily! Increased bloodflow makes hair grow faster!

Post # 9
2822 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

I think the best you can hope for is that it will grow long enough on top for a little styling gel of some kind. I’m sure he’ll look fine! I know it’s a shock when the change is that dramatic but you might learn to like it…

Post # 11
357 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2005

Aw.  It is a change, but I’ll bet it’s not so bad to an outside observer.  I was expecting something more like:

Do your head massages, and tell him how sexy he is, and maybe indulge in a little role play with your “new” boyfriend to try to get over it for now.  I’m sure he’ll look fine for the wedding, and your family won’t care one way or the other.

Post # 12
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I mean, there’s nothing you can do about it so you might as well just tell him it’s not that bad 😛 

It actually won’t look as weird to your relatives as it does to you: part of why it looks so bad to you is your brain already has an idea of what he should look like.  He could try taking biotin but in 2 weeks I think it would be mostly a placebo effect.

Post # 13
11273 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@MlleDarcy:  I actually think that’s an extremely attractive cut. If it looks like that, he will still look stylish and modern, even if he doesn’t look like your FI to you.

I know a bit about how you feel about this, because this happened to my FI when we traveled to visit my parents shortly after we were engaged.  They hosted a picnic for my extended family to meet him and his children. His normal hair stylist had moved away, and, prior to the trip he went to a salon in a shopping mall near where he lived, and they did a terrible job of cutting his hair. His did not look stylish like the pic you posted. Instead, they left the top longer and completely buzzed the sides. I hated it. However, it was what it was, and there was nothing we could do about it.

One idea for you would be to take a few really cute pictures of the two of you — even if they’re just on your phone, and find a reason to show them to those whom you really want to know what your FI normally looks like. 🙂

Post # 14
11760 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Who cares?? It will grow back eventually. No sense worrying about it you can’t do anything about it now.

Post # 16
9956 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Agree with Brielle: arm yourself with a ton of pics… you can even be posting them now (say on FaceBook if you do that sort of thing)… or just send friends & family a casual note… asap… (and not so close to the Wedding … in the week before… so your cousin will claim you are stealing her thunder) 

Hi Aunt Jane & Uncle Bob,

So excited about getting to see you at Cousin Joan’s upcoming Wedding, and you finally getting to meet the love of my life Mr Darcy…

Here is a pic of him & I from the Company Picnic we attended together last month


Mlle Darcy

That should do the trick…

On the otherhand, hair will grow out (thank goodness)

And guys hair tends to do so pretty quickly… so it certainly won’t be as bad as you perceive it to be now.

Hope this helps,


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