Post # 1
If you’ve read any of my previous posts, you know that my fiance was married before. Something you don’t know, I work with his ex MIL. It’s no big deal and we get along just fine. She likes to catch up on the kids, including mine, and what they do at our house, and she lets me know what’s going on when my future step-son is with his mom. It’s great. The thing is, she is hoping for an invitation to our wedding. Yup, she has had the balls to bring it up multiple times. And I’m just not sure I want her there. Our guest list is limited to 120 at our venue, and we are really hoping only 100 or so show up for space reasons. (The mansion owner said 100 is perfect, but invite 120. If they all show up, somehow she will accomodate everyone.) I am worried about hurting her feelings. The thing is, I’m not inviting my ex family, and his ex is not invited. Obviously. I just think it seems weird to invite her. Maybe if we had a much bigger wedding, it wouldn’t seem so out of place. We are also not inviting any of my co-workers except for one, and I knew her before she started working there. It’s close friends and family only. How do I let her down nicely? Or should I try to not rock the boat and invite her anyway? I don’t want work or the relationship we have with my fiance’s ex family to get weird. So far I’ve told her we haven’t nailed down a guest list yet.
Post # 2
I would just let her know that space is limited and while you would like to invite a ton more people, you had to make cuts somewhere. One of those was work co-wokers except X who you knew personally before she became a co-worker.
Post # 3
<br />I wouldn’t. I agree with above post – just say that space is limited and you are not able to invite everyone.
Post # 4
Are you inviting other coworkers? If not, then that’s easy. If you are, then it may be harder not to invite her. Fwiw, I invited my ex MIL to my wedding. She was incredibly wonderful and supportive of me when her son and I divorced and she is still our daughter’s grandmother. She did not come because she lives across the country- but she was happy to be invited.
Post # 5
eeniebeans: she said the only coworker she’s inviting was a friend before they worked together.
OP: I agree that you just need to tell her that space is limited. You can’t make everyone happy.
Post # 6
NOPE. no way. She wouldnt be getting an invite if it were me.
Post # 7
Is it just me I think if you get along and see each other everyday I don’t see why it is so weird? She seems like she is very happy for you guys and supports your relationship.
It is obviously up to you wether you feel comfortable or not.
Post # 8
sway0060: did you miss where OP said she feels weird inviting her? It doesnt seem like OP is comfortable inviting the ex-MIL.
Post # 9
I must have but I also added it was up to her on her comfort level so no snippy response needed I didn’t say she must invite her.
Post # 10
What does your fiance think? Does HE want her there?
Post # 11
MrsWoods47: missed that- thanks!
Post # 12
ah, that’s just so weird!!! I really dislike people who ask for an invitation… so so SO RUDE!!!! Don’t invite her, its just wrong and you don’t have to explain yourself. People who ask for wedding invitations are 99% of the time looking for free food/booze. Don’t invite her and if she asks again, just say “Guest list has been finalized, sorry but we were not able to accomodate you.” Harsh, but its the truth. If she really cares (which I doubt she does) she’ll understand.