(Closed) Fiance's ex will not leave us alone!!!!

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

He needs to have a serious talk with her – it’s his problem to deal with, not yours. If she is still not responsive, and he tries to ignore her, then you’ve got a big problem, and could potentially get her on harassment. Good luck! This sucks, and i’m sorry. 

Post # 4
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would do as much blocking as possible. Also save all text messages, emails and print them out just in case you need to file some kind of restraining order.

Block them on Facebook and see if your phone carrier can block those numbers from coming in.

Post # 5
1073 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Your Fiance can and should block her number on his phone.  You can also block her friend on FB.  You don’t necessarily have to change your lives.  Use the power of the block.  🙂 

Post # 6
1888 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Lockdown your fb profiles and change his cell number.  it’s very easy to send a mass text to the friends you DO want to keep in touch with once he gets the new number.


Post # 7
18 posts
  • Wedding: March 2014

@OctBride-2012:  Good ideas!


Yes, have your fiance give her one final warning to please leave him and you alone. Then block her number and block her on facebook.

Post # 8
371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I’m so sorry, this is totally inappropriate and it sounds like she needs to learn to let go.  Can your Fiance change his telephone number?  These days it’s not a big problem to do and it would solve the texting, and you should both be able to block her and her Fiance on FB so they can’t contact you.  But the bigger issue seems to be her inability to move on, your Fiance needs to take the hard line with her, send her an email and tell her it’s on file and if she doesn’t cease contacting you both then you will be seeking legal advice.

She sounds like a crazy person and planning a wedding is stressful enough!

Good luck!

Post # 9
7086 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree with OctBride-2012, just block them.  I have had to block several girls numbers from my step sons phone and they can no longer text or call.  Blocking on FB is easy.  Just easier to avoid them before they start causing more problems.

Post # 10
2430 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

Block her number and deny her requests.  Don’t communicate, and eventually she has to get the hint.  Getting upset about it will only make it go on longer; just ignore it completely and she’ll eventually move on. 

Post # 11
197 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Maybe your Fiance needs to be more direct and say “Please do not contact me anymore.  It is not good for either of us to maintain any kind of relationship, even if we are just friends.  In return, I promise to also not contact you. Thank You, and we wish you the best.”  If being firm and direct doesn’t work, You and your fiance should block her phone number from calling your phone.  Cut the strings completely off.  And if she continues to find ways to contact you. Ignore her completely.  Eventually she’ll give up… unless she’s crazy… then you might have to get a restraining order. 🙂


Post # 12
3982 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I say block the number and the FB requests – or have him change his number. Nothing worse than an Ex that can’t move on! sorry you have to deal with this mess!

Post # 13
2200 posts
Buzzing bee

Block them- she is super weird though~!

Post # 14
6593 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Unless they have kids or mutual property there is no need for them to stay in contact with each other.  Block her number and email address.  If she persists in contacting him then he needs to change his number and email and then contact their mutual acquantainces and request that they stop giving out his information to her because she is stalking him (get rid of the friends that don’t comply.)

Definitely keep copies of everything just in case she gets really crazy and you need a restraining order.

Post # 15
1083 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

MissNoodles +1!

He needs to change his phone number and block everything.

Post # 16
9168 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Block block block!! Have her phone number blocked and block her on facebook so she cannot search for you. What a whacko!

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