Fiance's Family Are Unhappy With Guest List

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
7717 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

It sounds like your husband is on your side here and isn’t letting his family come between you guys and the decisions you’ve made. That’s all that matters! As for his family being disappointed, I literally can’t think of any wedding where one side or the other wasn’t disappointed over some aspect of the guest list. This is standard wedding planning drama. Don’t sweat it. Just be thankful you are marrying a guy who appears to be putting you first!

Post # 3
4820 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

scaredengagedgirl :   As your Fiance said, don’t worry about it.  Have the wedding you and your Fiance want.  It is wonderful that he is on your side – an excellent start to your marriage!!  Enjoy the wedding planning!!

Post # 5
987 posts
Busy bee

It’s now time for them to accept that this is your wedding, and you call the shots. Whether they like or not is completely irrelevent. You are the one that has to live with this day forever. No one else. Unless they are contributing a big chunk of cash, they have NO say.

Post # 7
1301 posts
Bumble bee

Too bad, so sad. Have your husband practice saying “Unfortunately, we can’t invite everyone. Hope to see you over Christmas/New Year’s/next year etc!”

Post # 8
47254 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Usually in threads like this, the problem is one partner not supporing the other with family. That’s not your case. Your Fiance has your back.

Stop worring about what his family thinks. Every couple has to draw the line somewhere , no matter what their budget.

As the pp suggested , have some responses ready and practice their delivery.

” We are having a small wedding. We are not able to invite everyone we would like to be with us on our wedding day. I’m sure you undertsand.”

” We know there are others you would like to include, but we are not able to increase the guest list.”

Don’t make excuses like the size of the venue or budget. There are always those problem solvers who volunteer to share a chair or a meal.

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