(Closed) Fiance's Family Being a HUGE pain!! Need Advice……

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
4429 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@chkygal02:   aww * hugs* have you already booked your venue?

Post # 4
857 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Circumstances aside, it was a pretty big etiquette mistake to put “no plus ones” and “no children” on the invites. I don’t think the attire should have been on the invite as well (this is what a wedding website is for), although that is more acceptable to have on an invitation.

As for the Aunt being upset about the dress code, big deal. So she wont come, great! It’ll save you some money.


Post # 6
1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

It’s your and your FI’s wedding; do and say what you want.

I’m sick of etiquette dictating all this “polite” beating around the bush. Kudos for you for saying “no kids, dress nice, don’t bring uninvited guests”, essentially. You may have made certain people upset, but you would have done that even if it wasn’t stated on the invitation. If people are offended by the type of wedding you wish to hold, they need not attend.

Post # 7
1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@chkygal02:  Enjoy your wedding and let his family come if they want to. Have someone at the door with a list to make sure uninvited people do not come in.

You are paying for your wedding, and even if you were not, the day still belongs to YOU and your Fiance. If you want a certain atmosphere, then request it.

Whoever comes to your wedding will enjoy it.

Post # 8
506 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@pharmy:  +1 Holla at me girl. 

Also OP we want a similar wedding. Thank you for posting this. All I can say is have Fi back you up and put your feet down. You are not only paying, but you are having to pay back a loan as newlyweds. Plan the day y’all want.

Best doll!

Post # 9
2959 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

You are both adults and apparently the ones paying for the wedding. Like any other social event – that means YOU get to decide the details! It is a shame that FI’s family is upset, but obviously you did not get to decide on the details of their weddings so they will simply have to deal.It is simply impossible to please everybody so you might as well please yourselves!

We put the URL of our wedding web site on our Save-The-Date Cards and spread the word that we have pics (from trips, engagement, etc) and that got folks showing up to the site. We also have a MODERATED guest book and we already have entries!  We also mentioned that we will be posting our wedding pics on their as well.

Post # 10
163 posts
Blushing bee

that is completely assuming everyone either has access or will go onto a website.

Alot of guests are older or dont have computers or are traditional and prefer the paper invite with the info. Not everyone wants everything digital.

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