(Closed) Fiance’s family didn’t seem to like my dress :( Pictures Included

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 32
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Bumble bee

Your fiance’s family is crazy. That dress looks GREAT on you!

Post # 33
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You look fab and they are not the ones wearing it—it’s hard to impress everyone when it comes to this stuff just do u.

Post # 34
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think it looks very romantic! I think people tend to love or hate pickups, so that may be a reaction as well.  Don’t worry, it will be lovely.

Post # 35
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

It’s a beautiful dress, and you sound like you love it, which is what’s important. 🙂

When it comes to FI’s family, it might be that they have differing taste. That’s okay. They’re a different family, so it’s unlikely they would really love the same things you love. That’s okay too.

Or possibly, in case you haven’t thought of this–in the photos, you are not smiling and your posture is quite passive. I guess that could be contributing to their lack of enthusiasm, as there’s nothing like a bride with a delighted smile on her face and a posture that says “I LOVE this dress!!” (usually it’s the hands on the hips that gives it away). They might have been responding more to the mood of the pictures (dress fittings aren’t all that exciting) than the dress itself. 

As for your Fiance, I’m sure as long as it’s YOU walking up the aisle to meet him, he’ll be 100% happy.

Regardless, it is a gorgeous dress and I hope you can feel 100% happy with it.

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Honestly, you dont look thrilled in the picture, so I wonder if their reaction had more to do with that? Maybe they didnt know if you loved it…and everyone expects those super-ecstatic found THE DRESS moments to be captured by try-on pictures, but trying on dresses can be a stressful thing. I’m not trying to be critical of why you didnt look happy in the picture, but just suggesting that might explain the lukewarm reaction you got from your future in-laws.

And while I agree with the other posts that you look beautiful in your dress, dresses look sooo much better after alterations! So don’t let this reaction bother you when I’m sure on the big day, your in-laws will think you are gorgeous.

Even if they were expecting a different style, maybe they were just surprised by your choice. My Future Mother-In-Law seemed a little disappointed when fi stopped her from dragging her dress out to be altered for me and was surprised by my choice of a simple sheath…but she seems to have come around – it wasnt that she disliked my dress, just wasnt the style she was expecting…

hopefully that helps you to stop worrying…maybe you could ask them to go accessories/veil shopping with you to ensure they love your look too~

Post # 37
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

That dress is stunning.

Post # 38
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Your dress is beautiful on you now – just think how stunning you will be when the dress is properly fitted, you’ve got your hair and makeup done and all your accesories!  You’re going to look like a princess!

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Gardens of the World

I think it is stunning. You are going to look amazing. Their opinion doesnt matter, it is how you feel in it.

Post # 40
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think you look wonderful in it.  It is a beautiful dress and really suits you.  I wouldn’t worry about wihat his family think.  I don’t expect my mother in law to like my dress as she never seem s to like anything i wear even though i dress like an average almost 30 yr old.  The grandma is probably and understandably a little shocked as in her day wedding dresses were more vintage and had sleeves etc.  I wouldn’t worry at all about her comments.  The sister and fathers girlfriend may have issues of their own such as being envious of you getting married, or finding such a lovely dress etc.  At the end of the day all that matters is that you love it.  Your husband to be will love it regardless cos as the lady in the wedding dress shop pointed out to me, he hasn’t seen all the other options you tried on.  All he will know is that this is the dress you fell in love with so nothing else looked that great.  I think you look stunning in it. It shows off your lovely figure and the dress has great shape and look without being OTT or making it appear that you are trying too hard.  I would ignore everyone else.  You will look amazing on your wedding day xx

Post # 41
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Bumble Beekeeper

I, like @Pwitty: wonder if their reactions were in response to your lackluster facial expression in the picture. Don’t get me wrong – ALL of us have awkward face in dress photos, because you don’t stop and twirl and smile to take a picture of every dress you try on!

But if they were taking their cues from you, and you were already nervous about their reaction and then showed them pictures where you look doggone tired and sick of trying dresses on… maybe they just didn’t sense YOUR excitement about the dress and so didn’t muster any of their own? A lot of people tend to (subconsciously) take emotional cues from and mirror the emotional reactions of the person with whom they’re talking, so if you lacked excitement, even in the photo, it might easily explain their lack of excitement.

Post # 42
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

It’s a very classic, simple, timeless strapless white dress. It’s very flattering. Maybe they had a ho-hum reaction because it’s so simple? Maybe they are bling-bling, ultra-ruffle-ey, funky silhouette or lacey people? I like the classic look best, myself!

Post # 43
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Only listen to the bees–we are the only ones with taste.  Your dress is beautiful and I think it is a great dress for you.  I bet they are a LOT more enthusiastic once it fits properly, hair, makeup, veil, etc.  Don’t we always see that on SYTTD?

Post # 44
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@ddw: I agree. My Future Mother-In-Law told me she loved my dress… well.. more so… “I love it dear, you look so happy!” Even though she hated it because I did look really happy in the dress. Lol. Come to think of it… it always was a “I’m happy your happy” sentiment not a wow what a dress! lol It wasn’t until I changed dresses she told me that she knew it wasn’t the right one…. hahaha.

Post # 45
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Your dress is gorgeous!  don’t listen to negative coments from ppl…chances are that they are sour or jealous for whatever reason.  The point is that you look stunning in the dress and the dress itself is fabulous.  I love it!

Post # 46
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You look beautiful!  It only matters how you feel- I doubt any doubts THEY have will matter on your big day!

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