- 6 years ago
- Wedding: January 2013
I’m going to try and keep this short and sweet…here goes. My fiance and I have known each other since we were 10 years old. We had been together over a year and a half when his brother started dating a girl. The first time I met her they had been together 2 weeks and she started talking about their honeymoon…
On their one year anniversary they got engaged and got married six months later. From the time they started dating all I heard about from everyone was about them and their lives. Now they are married and moved away. I thought my troubles were over.
My fiance and I got engaged in December. His family, though I get along with everyone well and from what I have been told am very accepted as part of the family, they have not been as enthusiastic about our engagement and other than his mom, his father and everyone else have basically been uninterested. I don’t usually want all the attention and with our wedding still 8months away I am hopeful his family will come around before them and share in our experience.
His brother and his new wife came down a few months ago and she asked me about the wedding… I told her where it was and she mentioned how beautiful it is… She then proceeded to say she wanted to get maternity pictures there….she’s not pregnant. I never got along with her before (when they were engaged she would say “well you’re not the one getting married, etc etc though I was trying to be helpful and supportive)
Anyways, I told her any pictures taken at our cereminy location would be beautiful only for her to reply “yeah but I think maternity pictures would just look the best…”
is it wrong for me to be irritated by this? This coming from a girl who walks in and I say hellp to her and she just looks at me and keeps walking…
I’ve never done anything I can think of and from the beginning she has been pushy towards me.
My fiance’s mother says she feels threatened as I have always had my place in the family since before she came along but I think there’s a time when you just stop making excuses and people have to grow up.
Is it selfish of me to want the spotlight AT LEAST for a day when we get married? I’m afraid I’ll hear her mention maternity pictures on My fiance’s and my wedding day and I will fly off the handle…
I’ve been trying not to think and worry wbout it but what would you do?
I know sometimes you have to be the bigger person but dang the highroad can be awfulllllly high sometimes…