(Closed) Fiance's Family Not Coming to Our Wedding

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 4
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7652 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Considering your reasoning, which is you can’t get away with selectively inviting people, then you will just have to invite parents, brother, and grandparents…especially if inviting all his aunts and uncles will mean that they won’t fit in one place.

They should understand that you had a smaller wedding, and that is why they couldn’t come. If they aren’t raising a stink about it now then they probably won’t. If they do just stick to your guns and say you had limited room.

Are your aunts and uncles coming? Because that I would find very unfair if you invited yours but not his. Then I could see that being a problem, but if not then you should be fine.

Post # 5
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688 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

No, thats not weird. The point of your wedding is to celebrate with people whom you are close to. If he doesn’t “have” to have of his extended family there, I don’t see that as a bad thing, personally.

Have you thought about inviting your side of the family to the 2nd reception? That way they could still meet.

Post # 7
Member
688 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Hm…thats a little odd to me, honestly. Why wouldn’t she want your family to be there? At least your parents. Could your Fiance talk to her and see if some of your family can come? For me, personally, if his family was pretty much holding out for a reception that is closer to them for convienence sake, I would be a little offended. Sorry if I’m reading in to this too much, lol, I do that sometimes.

Post # 8
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397 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

For our wedding only my parents are coming. None of my 8 siblings, numerous aunts or uncles or friends are even coming. Granted it would be a Destination Wedding for them to come to (as we live in New Zealand and I’m from the US). I was really upset about it at first when people kept telling me they couldn’t come, but now it doesn’t bother me so much. Would I love to have a more equal number of family at our wedding? Of course, but it’s not a reality. For such a small wedding as you’re having, this is pretty normal. We’re having a slightly bigger one ourselves (80) and the majority are people from my FI’s side. I don’t really have any advice for you here, but just think about the situation and eventually it won’t bother you so much. Sometimes family do funny things when it comes to a wedding. I thought my siblings would have made a bigger effort to come for our wedding, but I have turned out to be a lower priority than a new car or a trip to Vegas. I’m sure your wedding will be lovely even without a lot of your FI’s family there.

Post # 10
Hostess
1427 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@amanda0543:  Either invite all or invite none. When you selectively invite people those that missed the cut and are close family could possibly get hurt. You can just keep it to immediate family and then happily and graciously attend the second reception.

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