- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
I’ve dated the most wonderful man for the past 2.5 years and our wedding is 3 months away…anyways, I will be the first to admit that I’m not close with any of them and I have only met his best man prior to the wedding. The thing is, they’ve never reached out to me, and I feel like my friends have all reached out to FH. I recently sent out our save-the-date’s and on there we have the link to our wedding website, and found out that one of the girls in his group sent out a mass email to all of his friends and copied FH on it, basically mocking our website and what I wrote on it. I think she thought it was cheesy or over the top, but I’m a very different girl than she is. She’s very rough and isn’t a girly girl at all, on the other hand I’m fairly girly and bubbly with my friends and loved ones. However, I’ve never once sent out emails mocking her and the way she is, and I’m hurt that she decided to do so before ever actually meeting me yet.
I guess I feel the same sentiment from the entire group of FH’s friends…I reach out to them on facebook, and they mostly ignore me. Meanwhile, they make assumptions about me based on the fact that I was in a sorority in college and prefer shopping or getting pedicures to working underneath a car (I’ve never even been under a car and have no desire to…not knocking those DIY girls that love that stuff, I figure more power to them because they love doing something you couldn’t pay me to do, but to each their own) and I guess I’m just growing anxious about actually having to meet them at the wedding.
FH is trying to stay out of it, but that kind of has me hurt as well because I feel like I’ve never sent out anything making fun and I’m guessing by the nature of their email (which he let me read because we don’t keep anything from each other) that poking fun at me is a group pasttime, at least with the girls in the group and the guys don’t seem to interject…they just stay quiet.
To be perfectly honest, my group of friends are more successful, much wealthier, have social graces, and are much more attractive than FH’s friends but I’d never mock them or make fun of them with my friends. I feel like I’ve tried multiple times now, and they ignore me but will make fun behind my back. FH thinks that the girls are just catty and have jealousy issues going on, but I don’t think that’s an excuse for poor behavior.
How do I react when I meet them in person at the wedding? If this were any other group of people, I’d be perfectly civil and polite, but not friendly…knowing what I do…but these are FH’s closest group of friends and I don’t want to make FH feel like he has to play referree at our own wedding. I wish I could call them out on it and at least put it all out in the open to clear the air, but I can’t do that either. I’m irritated at the thought of having to be fake to a group of people who are so ugly on the inside. (probably overly harsh…my hurt emotions are coming out now that I’m emoting online).
Help?? How do I react during the wedding? 🙁