Post # 1
I have known that my fiance’s parents do not believe in drinking, period. They are very conservative and religious. We do not want to offend them in any way, so we are not even going to have wine served at the wedding. However, I recently went to a garage sale where there was a ton of empty wine bottles being sold for dirt cheap! I thought it would be great for my “rustic/chic” wedding in Jan., so I bought them. I was planning on cleaning and sterilizing the bottles, and putting water in them for each table. But when I told my fiance about it, he told me that he believes the wine bottles themselves will offend them!
…….so, I am coming to you, bees, to keep my sanity. Do you think there is any way that I could use these wine bottles as decor that would NOT offend his parents? There are like 20 bottles, and I would really love to use them. Any help would be so appreciated!
Post # 3
Use the bottles. I wouldnt even tell them you’re using them. Laugh it off.
If for some reason, they have a problem, then thats on them – you, by making your wedding dry, have been MORE than understanding.
Post # 5
Personally I wouldn’t want to drink water out of a used wine bottle, but other than that I don’t see the issue.
Post # 6
Use the bottles. For that matter, have alcohol at your wedding if that is what YOU want. You are starting down a dangerous road very early if you are already compromising what you want to keep your in-laws happy.
Post # 7
OMG, if that offends them, then they can excuse themselves. It’s a glass container!
Post # 8
@MrsFuzzyFace: “have alcohol at your wedding …. You are starting down a dangerous road very early” +1
Post # 9
I totally agree with everything that you girls are saying. I really do. My fiance’ and I have gone over and over this…but his parents wouldn’t handle it well. I can honestly see her running out of the reception in tears if she saw alcohol there. You are probably thinking, that’s ridiculous and not likely — but really, really…it is. I don’t know if I will serve alcohol, just because it would ruin the wedding for them. But I will probably use the wine bottles. You guys are right, I do need to stand up for myself.
Post # 10
This is your wedding correct, not theirs? So it should reflect your tastes and values. Otherwise it’s just a long life of feeling like you’re teenagers and not grown adults.
Post # 11
Use the bottles.
Also, if other people consuming alcohol makes her cry, she’s got other problems to worry about. That is not healthy.
Post # 12
@cms1120: Crying at the reception?
Blame it on the al-al-al-alcohol…
Blame it on the booze…
Blame it on the Henny…
Blame it on the stress ’cause with this MIL there ain’t no winnin’…
Post # 13
I agree, YOUR wedding. Unless the in-laws are footing the bill, do as you like.
Post # 14
use the bottles. If they’re that easily offended, you’ll never be able to win with them, so you might as well do what you want.
Post # 15
I don’t think I’d serve water out of them, just because the kind off cleaning I’d feel comfortable with to make sure they were sanitary would probably ruin the lables. Could you use them in the centerpieces? Maybe put a couple long stem flowers in them?
I think asking you not to use some empty bottles is just ridiculous. (And I’m very understanding and tolerant of people’s religious convictions; I would probably make the same compromise as you and do without the alcohol to make my FILs comfortable too.)
Post # 16
@chillyteddy: Agreed, unless they are paying for the wedding, do whatever you like