Post # 1
They won’t bring up anything about the wedding around me! He claims they do when I’m not around…but I haven’t even gotten a congratulations from them! They live literally 2 minutes away from us, and we see them often, but they always seem to want to talk about everything else. Just kinda hurts my feelings, because my family was super excited and sent cards, and gift cards and money right away! His mom even came over the other night, and I had my candy buffet jars on the table decorated (yay for my craftiness btw!) and she looked right at them and didnt say anything 🙁
Maybe I take this worse then others, but all my family is in Florida, I moved to Virginia to be with my (now) fiance, so I was hoping his mom would atleast be a little into it since my mom isn’t here.
Really all I’m expecting is a congrats….or a question regarding the wedding!!
Anyone else going through this? It SUCKS!!!
Post # 3
I don’t think you are alone on this; no worries elenam! I’m sort of going through this too. I’ve only been engaged for a week (so I don’t know how long it’s been for you, I may just be jumping to it ha) My FI’s parents live really close to us also. My parents are really excited, and I know that his are too but they just haven’t shown their excitement the same way that my parents have. Hopefully with time it will get better. I’m just waiting for the ‘awkwardness or shock’ to go away so that we can really get into planning and stuff.
Like I said, I don’t know how long you have been engaged, but maybe they just need more time to process the idea of their son getting married. Try talking to them about it and find out why they seem to be avoiding it.
Hope this helps and congrats on the engagement!
Post # 4
Ugh, I know how you feel but for me, it’s my mom. To her, wedding=babies and that’s all she cares about. She actually told me once that I should just elope so I didn’t have to deal with a wedding.
Post # 5
DH’s parents did that to us – but it was because they felt like they COULDN’T bring it up around DH’s sister because she was so miserable. It made me so angry because it was an exciting time for us, and they never once inquired about the planning or anything, even when his sister wasnt’ around. She sucked the joy out of it for most of her family, including her brother… focus on those who ARE happy and asking about it. In the end, they’re the ones that you’ll remember when you think back on the good times!
Post # 6
Although I can not give you any advice, I want to let you know you are not alone!! I have been having this same problem for over a year now. My fiancé and I haven’t talked to them in months because they simply cannot be nice about the wedding. We have been dating for seven years and were always nice until wedding planning had started. I am not sure what their problem is. I hope things start getting better for you though! Who knows, maybe with the holidays approaching, they will begin to be more kind and excited for you and your fiancé.