Fiance's Parents…..

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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153 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I don’t know if you can get him to understand since he hasn’t been willing to so far. One thing I would do though is avoid talking about them to anyone in the family since it obviously gets back to them. Don’t give them a reason to complain about you even if they’re being ridiculous.

Post # 3
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12647 posts
Honey Beekeeper

It’s usually a bad idea to talk about people behind their backs. Going to the sister about her mother’s comments was also incredibly inappropriate. These people may be everything you say, but you’ve brought a lot of this on yourself. 

Post # 4
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2328 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

You sound like you’re inviting a lot of this drama. 

Post # 5
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2707 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

Don’t see them, don’t talk about them with other people, leave him to have a relationship with them if he wants to, but you don’t need to have a relationship with them.  But PP are right – you shouldn’t be discussing them behind their backs.  I personally think you should probably apologize to them for that – I believe you shouldn’t say anything about a person that you wouldn’t say to that person.  A genuine apology might go a long way.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

You’re a total hypocrite, you know that right?  You put your food down for Future Mother-In-Law where it pertains to your household but inserted yourself into a family argument that had nothing to do with you and added to the drama.  You then go on a family vacation with them, talk about them behind their backs and now are surprised that they don’t like or trust you?  You don’t even see that you’re engaging in the same bad behavior you accuse these people of do you? 

Do yourself a favor, let your Fiance deal with his family his way and you stay out of it until asked.  You don’t have to like these people but they’re his family so learn to set proper boundaries for yourself and them and try to live in some type of harmony instead of adding to the drama.

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