(Closed) Fiance’s realtives’ weddings are destroying ours!! Help!

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

First off, I’m sorry that you feel like your wedding is just kind of getting lumped into the wedding factory that his family seems to be having lately.

What are the colours that you and she have chosen?  Is it specifically that she’s chosen “green tea and teal” or that you both have green and blue kind of thing?  Really, there are so many shades of colours and “theming” that it’s still possible to be completely different. 

As for the song, I don’t think I could even tell you what song anyone besides myself used for a cake cutting, and I’d even have to think about ours… I think it was “When I’m 64”, but it may have been the “Sweetest thing” by U2.  I see no reason to change your first dance song because someone else is using it as cake cutting.  People are just sitting there thinking MmM.. cake.

Post # 4
Member
4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

the same colors can look VERY different in two different weddings. it’s annoying, sure, and i can see why you’re upset, but you should focus on your wedding and not worry about theirs. make your wedding perfect for you and your fi, and their weddings won’t compare ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
Member
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

In My Humble Opinion, you should not have set your wedding 2 years later simply to avoid family conflicts.  Afterall, 2 years is a very long time and the family does not seem too on edge about stepping on your toes.

I’m on the fence about your situation.  I can see why you think a cousin would try to “steal your thunder” by scheduling her wedding 2 weeks before yours.  Despite the previous statement, you guys have one day, not one month.  Your wedding will still be about you and the future hubby. 

I would be more annoyed with someone stealing my colors though.  But honestly, people steal ideas all the time.  You should not share anymore details concerning your wedding. 

 

Post # 8
Member
489 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I think you need to not let your family know any details that are important to you.  I also think you are projecting a bit to think that your cousin is assuming you stole the colors from her.

I’m sorry you’re not getting the enthusiasm from your family about your wedding.  Do you all live in the same area?  Are people going to have to chose which wedding to go to?

Post # 9
Member
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

OutsideWeddingBee

Gotcha.  Have you already sent the RSVPs out or paid for any services outright?  What if you moved your wedding up to March, April or May?  You may hate this idea, but at least you can avoid the wedding clutter.  The Spring months are really pretty too Laughing

Post # 10
Member
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

“stolen” colours and music – sorry but i dont get it, you cant reserve a colour or song for no one else to use

im sorry you seem so crowded by all of this right now but im a believer that you get a day not a month or year and as most guests dont think/look/google/plan weddings all the time im pretty sure your wedding will still be unique and special on the day

my other suggestion is can you bring your wedding forward??

 

Post # 11
Member
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am so sorry this is happening to you. I would be thinking the same things that you are. Even though they may not be a big deal to others dosn’t mean that its not a big deal to you, expecially since you have been working on it for over a year now. I do agree that you should try not to take it so personal, because you have the man of your dreams and the two of you will be together and happy forever. That is the most important thing and no one can ever take that away from you.

I hope that everything works out for the best.

Post # 14
Member
47 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I guess I look at it like this:  it is not a competition.  Do everything you want to do to make your wedding exactly as you want it, and just block out the rest.  They just don’t matter in the scheme of things for what your day is all about.  It is about you and your FH and what you both share.  If that happens to be the same favorites as others?  So be it, it should in no way take away from your joy.  Sometimes to be the bigger person is also to be the happier person.

Post # 15
Member
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I am concerend that my wedding will go from unique to generic family wedding

by the sounds of you and your planning i dont think your wedding will be thought off any less, in fact it sounds better planned and thought out which hopefully will leave a lasting memory with guests

im pretty sure on the day of your wedding all these annoying things will fade away as you focus on whats most important, you and your Fiance getting married

 

The topic ‘Fiance’s realtives’ weddings are destroying ours!! Help!’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors