(Closed) Fiance’s sister and bridesmaid problems

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

This is your fiance’s sister – do you really want to start your union with her family on a sour note?  You’re the one that changed your mind after she wanted the same dress as another bridesmaid, so I think you don’t have much defense behind you.

Tell the rest of your bridesmaids to deal with it, there is no reason they should be protesting this.

Post # 4
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

I agree…I don’t think the type of dress is honestly something to start an argument over. I say just let her get that dress and be done with it. In the grand scheme of things, it won’t really matter. As for your other bridesmaid making a stink, she needs to shut her own mouth and go with whatever she’s told.

Post # 5
443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’d let her wear it. First, for the reason stated in pp. But also you picked the designer, color, skirt style, and material… There aren’t a million choices within those parameters, maybe it is the best dress for her. Workaround idea: don’t have them stand next to each other?

Post # 6
1715 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Ok if you really insist on having everyone different now can you modify it with something as simple as a different sash or the hemlength being different.

Post # 7
2067 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@naturalysam:  Great suggestion!  I think it’s fine… I was in a wedding in May and we all wore different dresses…Except the groom’s two sisters wore the same dress, I believe…. And it was fine! 🙂 don’t worry about it 🙂

Post # 8
411 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I agree with the PPs that you shouldn’t worry so much about this. All eyes will be on you anyway, and it’s little things like “no, I DEMAND you get XYZ dress!!!” that will start turning bridesmaids sour. And once they’re sour, there’s no un-souring … and next thing you know, you’re finding that nobody wants to help with a bachelorette party, etc. Keeping Bridesmaid or Best Man morale high for the win!!!!!

Post # 9
2815 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@naturalysam:  This is an excellent idea!  If it’s straight across, have one altered to a sweetheart.  

Post # 10
121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@MrsEhrlich2bee:  Yes she is your future family, BUT personally I would kick her out of the wedding. It is YOUR wedding not her’s.  She knew when this master’s exam was she should of scheduled to try on dresses before.  I am havign kind of the same problem with my Bridesmaid or Best Man or was.  She finally decided she is old enough to make her own decisions. she is 26 wanted her mother to pick out her dress . 


That is just my opinion though if your not happy now it might really get on your nerves on the day of.  I see your wedding is in October which is 6 months away usually Bridesmaid or Best Man driesses take 6-12 weeks to get ordered I believe, so if she has to take her masters in 2 weeks then she will have at least 5 months to pick a dress out one weekend and get it ordered or bought.  

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