Post # 1
First off, I think I have been an amazing bride, no bridzilla moments from me, I know I can be pretty stern on my opinions, but i feel like you can ask anyone around me and they will honestly say I am the dream bride to work with… and I have been amazing with my bridesmaids, I am letting them choose their own alfred sung dress, with the stipulations that its navy blue, dupio ni and has a fuller skirt, no pencil skirts. Well at first i said I don’t want more than two girls in the same dress, and luckily for me everyone has chosen a different dress, except for my fiance’s sister. *Back story: one of my bridesmaids is about 4’11 and 100lbs, so she found the dress she wanted online for cheap, and i told her to buy it to make sure these dress will fit her fine, since she is tiny, and it fits like a dream, except the length, which is an easy fix. Well now my fi’s sister wants the same dress, and i told her i changed my mind and i want everyone in a different dress, i feel like them two in the same dress would look odd standing next to each other, and she argued with me and pulled the “i’m taking my masters exam in 2 weeks and i don’t have time to try on all these dresses and its the only one i like” crap so i just said, “fine whatever” but 2 of my bridesmaids are so pissed that she wont change her dress and is arguing with me about it. They feel she should shut her mouth and go with it. I have mentioned it to my fiance what i want and he sided with her, and pulled the “does it really matter” crap. I am pretty upset becasue it does matter to me, I really want her in a different dress, but I don’t want to cause drama. Her and I don’t really have the closest relationship, we are only 2 years apart, but no matter what i do to get close with her, she pushes me away, and she is the kind to complain to her parents and she ends up getting her way.
I don’t know if I should tell her to choose another dress or don’t be in the wedding, but I am not a mean person and I don’t want to do that, I WANT her in my wedding, I just really want her to choose another dress. My wedding isnt until october, so she has not ordered it yet and has until June to decide, so her excuse of she doesnt have time to try on the dresses, is bull… I don’t know what to do… help!!! lol
Post # 3
This is your fiance’s sister – do you really want to start your union with her family on a sour note? You’re the one that changed your mind after she wanted the same dress as another bridesmaid, so I think you don’t have much defense behind you.
Tell the rest of your bridesmaids to deal with it, there is no reason they should be protesting this.
Post # 4
I agree…I don’t think the type of dress is honestly something to start an argument over. I say just let her get that dress and be done with it. In the grand scheme of things, it won’t really matter. As for your other bridesmaid making a stink, she needs to shut her own mouth and go with whatever she’s told.
Post # 5
I’d let her wear it. First, for the reason stated in pp. But also you picked the designer, color, skirt style, and material… There aren’t a million choices within those parameters, maybe it is the best dress for her. Workaround idea: don’t have them stand next to each other?
Post # 6
Ok if you really insist on having everyone different now can you modify it with something as simple as a different sash or the hemlength being different.
Post # 7
@naturalysam: Great suggestion! I think it’s fine… I was in a wedding in May and we all wore different dresses…Except the groom’s two sisters wore the same dress, I believe…. And it was fine! 🙂 don’t worry about it 🙂
Post # 8
I agree with the PPs that you shouldn’t worry so much about this. All eyes will be on you anyway, and it’s little things like “no, I DEMAND you get XYZ dress!!!” that will start turning bridesmaids sour. And once they’re sour, there’s no un-souring … and next thing you know, you’re finding that nobody wants to help with a bachelorette party, etc. Keeping Bridesmaid or Best Man morale high for the win!!!!!
Post # 9
@naturalysam: This is an excellent idea! If it’s straight across, have one altered to a sweetheart.
Post # 10
@MrsEhrlich2bee: Yes she is your future family, BUT personally I would kick her out of the wedding. It is YOUR wedding not her’s. She knew when this master’s exam was she should of scheduled to try on dresses before. I am havign kind of the same problem with my Bridesmaid or Best Man or was. She finally decided she is old enough to make her own decisions. she is 26 wanted her mother to pick out her dress .
That is just my opinion though if your not happy now it might really get on your nerves on the day of. I see your wedding is in October which is 6 months away usually Bridesmaid or Best Man driesses take 6-12 weeks to get ordered I believe, so if she has to take her masters in 2 weeks then she will have at least 5 months to pick a dress out one weekend and get it ordered or bought.