Fiancé’s sister announced her engagement 1.5 months after ours

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
Post # 16
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405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Let it go! My family has 3 weddings this year all close in dates. Mine is first on 8/18/18. My cousin is 9/8/18. Another cousin is 9/15/18. My mother and her 2 sisters each have a child getting married this year. I’m not tripping about this so you shouldn’t trip either!

Post # 17
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210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Same thing happened to me. Only FI’s sister had been dating her SO much longer, so I’m sure she was annoyed we got engaged first. It’s actually been really fun to have someone to go through the wedding planning with. They are getting married 3 months after us and everyone is so excited for both. Both my Fiance and myself are in their bridal party and they are in ours. This is not something to be upset about. 

Post # 18
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562 posts
Busy bee

Story of my life! Just be glad it wasn’t your sister.

my fiancé had a ring & everything. Was about to propose and we have been together for years. I’m 6 years older than sis.

anyway little sis bet us to it and got engaged to her boyfriend of 9 months. 

We had to wait another six months for her to get married & then not her 3 months after that to get engaged.

happy days 

Post # 19
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615 posts
Busy bee

What I say is 100% true here.

I got engaged  1 week before my sister got married. She got married one week before our other sister. 

Each person had their own day and no event took away from another.

I understand the worry but its wasted energy. 

Words of advice is:

If you are competitive, try not to disclose and ask for much information about their wedding. It can only go wrong.

 

Post # 20
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8998 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

almax :  

 “My fiancé’s sister announced her engagement 1.5 months after mine…  I’m ..feeling weird about the timing.”  

Nothing to feel ‘weird’ about OP, if she had announced it the day after,  its still not ‘weird’ . You have your date and venue already  I believe,  so all you and you Fiance have to do is a bit of collaboration with her and Future Brother-In-Law to manage their dates/her family availability. If  they won’t  –  well  there’s not a thing you can do about that . It’s really more  of an issue for your Fiance ‘s family I would have thought.  

Post # 21
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1099 posts
Bumble bee

I will never understand this mindset. So what?!?! No one can get engaged for a year after you??? Seriously? Why do people think an engagement or wedding is something everyone’s world must revolve around and no one else can also commit to their relationship! The horror! Move on. 

Post # 22
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1117 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

As long as your weddings aren’t the same day, there’s nothing to stress about. My brother got married a month before us, across the country, and the family members I was worried would have to choose one managed to travel to both. 

I was a bit disappointed because my SIL got pregnant right after they set their date (or possibly before…) so she was 8 months pregnant at her own wedding, and neither she nor my brother could come to mine. He was the only person I missed at my wedding.

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