- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2016
On Feb 14th this year my Fiance proposed and we immediately started discussing wedding dates. Upon decided it would hopefully be during summer 2016, my fiance all excited, telephoned his sister to announce we are getting married. During that call he was told his other sister was looking at marrying August 2016 but she cant make up her mind. Out of courtesy we spoke to his other sister and she claimed to be unsure of when to get married and would either be this autumn or next spring or July. Both sisters told us if we get ours booked,our date will be worked around and not clash. We went ahead and booked for August 2016,booked church and booked and paid deposit for venue.
In March we visited the sister due to marry. We made is clear numerous times on the date we had booked and everyone said they would come to the wedding and they wouldnt dream of missing it as he is their big brother blah blah blah. She still at that time couldnt decide what month or year to book hers. She has been on and off with her partner for 3 years (more off than on).We sent out save the dates to all my family and my fiances family.
Last week i get an message from my fiances sister that isnt getting married, asking what date were we “thinking” of marrying as X has booked her wedding for xth August 2016….2 weeks after ours. I replied we were not thinking about it,it had been booked fir 6 weeks all deposits paid and it is xAugust 2016. It was then suggested how great it would be if we changed our date so we could go to X’s wedding!!! I reiterated that deposits had been paid and my family (who live 300 miles away) had already been looking into accommodation,transport,time off work etc.
Now…i totally get that our wedding day is just one day. I am the furthest from a Bridezilla as you can get. BUT when she knows that my fiance will have no guests,and still does it it makes me sick.My fiance’s family live 600 miles away. My fiance moved here 10 years ago and has 3 sisters and a mother all living in the same town in the North of UK. He loves them and misses them greatly.Thats the reason we consulted people before booking as we know the hassle of attending 2 weddings if they were close together. My fiance only has these 7 family members (sisters with partners plus mum).
Booking her wedding that close without either double checking our date or asking peoples opinions, its a bit of a selfish thing to do. initially i was thinking,his family only need to travel for our wedding as the other wedding is a mile down the road from them.Its not as if they will need hotel,travel etc for both…
Well,my fiance spoke to his other sister today. Apparently the other sister chose that wedding date as its when she wanted it.We presume from the comments that things have definately been booked in
He has also been told that his Mum cannot afford to travel to ours and go to the sisters wedding,and because that one is near home she will go to that one.
His youngest sister has said the same, that she cant manage to travel,get home and have another wedding 2 weeks later.
His oldest sister has said she will try and think about coming down. She has given an excuse of it being her birthday the weekend in between the weddings and because she has to be back for the sisters wedding she wants to go away when its our wedding.
The sister getting married cant come down because she wouldnt dream of being away so close to her wedding!!
My Fiance has also been asked if he will attend this sisters wedding!! No damn way should we travel…We are both disabled by the way.
I now have an upset fiance who knows he will have no family there. He says he will live with it and aslong as me and him get married he isnt fussed. He also said, if his family were bothered enough they would make an effort.
Im finding hard to accept as i know during the most precious day of our lives,ill be surrounded by my family and ill see the sadness and rejection in his eyes.