(Closed) Fiances sister books wedding 2 WEEKS after ours- advice please.

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I didn’t read the whole thing. 

What is the problem? You don’t get a whole month, you get a day. That’s why they call your wedding day “your day”, not your month. 

 

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

If the sister’s relationship isn’t that strong to begin with, it’s possible that her wedding won’t even be happening, and then it will be a non-issue. I agree that the bride shouldn’t monopolize more than just the wedding day, but I can see how sad it would be for your Fiance not not have his family there because of the distance and timing of the other wedding. Some of the reasons for the family not attending, though, could just be their general reluctance to travel independent of the sister’s wedding, which is unfortunate. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

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caligirl0011:  Why would you comment without reading through the post? Yes, normally most of us here are big ‘you get ONE day’ proponents, but the OP’s situation is totally different. Her fiance’s sister booked that date after she knew when theirs was, plus knowing full well the fiance’s family wouldn’t be able to travel to both weddings. That’s what the OP is upset about–that it looks like most of her fiance’s family won’t be able to make their wedding even though they booked it and let everyone know the date first.

@the OP: I’m sorry–that’s a shitty thing the sister did. How sad that she would be so selfish. 

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 2 months ago by  MrsYokiman.
Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I agree with 

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craigslistgirl. This is crappy but I don’t think sister’s wedding is really to blame. Two weeks is ample time to travel and they have over a year to save money. Are you 100% sure they were going to come before?

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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dizzybride27:  That was a low thing for the sister to do.

One thing I’m not sure about though. The sister who is getting married lives in the same town as the other sister and FI’s mother also lives in the same town.

That means that the family only has to travel for one wedding, so how does the other wedding make it impossible for them to travel?  If it is because the mother is paying for or contributing to the cost of the sister’s wedding, is it possible for the two of you to help his family with travel costs?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Wah that sucks. Like a PP I’m curious as to why they can’t travel for the wedding with 2 weeks to spare. And you sent out STD a year and a half before the wedding?

What size of wedding are you having? How much were the deposits? With this much time I would honestly book a different date so your fiancé will have his family there. You shouldn’t face to but it doesn’t sound like this family would budge. I would definitely make sure they actually plan on attending though before making any changes.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

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caligirl0011:  Rude. The situation is nothing like it first appears, as you would understand if you had taken the time you spent commenting reading instead.

That really sucks, OP. I’m sorry. I don’t even know where you go from here. It sounds like Fiance does communicate regularly with his family. Can he call this sister and lay it all on the line? That you guys tried to be considerate, but you booked first, and this is going to mean he won’t have any family at his wedding.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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caligirl0011:   Read the whole thing before commenting. It’s not about her wanting a month; it’s the fact that het FIs family can’t travel to both so close together. People are so quick to be rude on here sometimes

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

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caligirl0011:  What is the problem? Well she explained the problem in the post. Maybe next time consider reading a whole post before commenting.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Something tells me that they would have found any excuse not to come to his wedding. Write them off.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I know you only get one day, but it was inconsiderate of the sister to plan her wedding so close to yours knowing it could cause problems for the family to attend both.

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