Post # 1
So my fiance just informed me that his sister’s boyfriend has asked his permission to propose to fiance’s sister the weekend before our wedding. Ummm, is this completely unacceptable or am I just being selfish? And, if I’m just being selfish, am I entitled to be selfish the week before my wedding??? Someone please confirm that this is really rude or tell me to snap out of it and stop being a bridezilla!
Post # 3
y should it matter unless she’s gonna try to make your wedding into her engagement party, I don’t see why u should care. No you’re not entitled to a week, just one day.
Post # 3
LOL it’s completely selfish that you think you own the right to any happy news a week before your wedding.
Post # 4
I don’t see what’s wrong with that. If he was planning on proposing AT your wedding I’d be upset. It’s very sweet and considerate of her BF to ask you guys.
Post # 4
You’re being a bit selfish, I think. They’re allowed to get engaged whenever. If they were getting engaged AT your wedding, that would be totally rude!!
Post # 5
@sarindipity: I’m not going to call you a bridezilla but I will say that I don’t think it’s that big of a deal. You get your day but aside from that, there isn’t really anything wrong with them getting engaged the weekend before, IMO.
Post # 6
I understand where you’re coming from, but I really don’t think you have to worry. All attention will be on you for your wedding, no matter what else happens.
Post # 7
okay, yeah, their engagement has nothing to do with your wedding unless he is planning to propose AT your wedding. The truth is that “no one will be excited about your wedding as you are” its not going to be an important day in their lives as much as it will be in yours
Post # 8
I find no issue with it. It is a week before and not the day of.
Post # 9
I understand why would you be upset but I don’t see how it’s exactly rude. You get a day to celebrate and your family will still be excited for you on your wedding day. Can’t you be happy for them as well? If it really bothers you, tell Fiance to have the bf wait until after your wedding but I don’t think that’s really necessary.
Post # 10
Let it go – The wedding day is your day, but the week before is just the week before. At least he had the courtesy to ask.
Post # 11
Really? Hmm, interesting. I hear you, I do…I just thought maybe someone would agree that I could be selfish a week before the wedding. And, wait, let me just throw in some other factors to be considered…I live in Philadelphia. Finace’s sister and her boyfriend live in NYC. Her getting engaged means we’re going to NYC the week before the wedding. Just logistically, that sounds like a nightmare! No? Anyone?
Post # 12
I’m also with those who don’t think this is a big deal. You’ll still get your day a week later, and trust me, everyone is going to know you’re the bride that day.
It would be different if he proposed at your wedding, but he did have the courtesy to ask your Fiance ahead of time which is sweet!
Post # 14
I think this is really something you shouldn’t worry yourself over. With everything else that is probably stressful right now you should try not to add to the list. I think it’s very nice that he asked for permission. I don’t think you have any right to tell someone when they can get engaged. You should be happy for them. It’s not like they are going to take attention away from you…you’re going to be the one in the white gown after all!
Don’t sweat the petty things, and don’t pet the sweaty things 😉