Post # 89
I agree with some of PP’s that it is the week before your wedding and not the day of…. However, it does sort of look like they want in on some attention or else why not wait until the week after? Why must they do it then? I might be a bit annoyed by this.
Post # 90
You have every right to be in a crazy state of mind! I look back on myself and the things that bothered me within a month before my wedding and I think I was absolutely insane. While recently getting married and realizing how irrational I was right before the wedding I can see why you are upset. But in a couple of months you will step back and realize that it is only one day and noone can take that away from you. And having happy people being involved in your wedding will just make it that much better. Good luck, you are almost there!
I will also add that my SIL got engaged 6 months before my wedding and I was secretly so upset lol. I couldn’t tell anyone so I wrote on the bee and voiced my crazy thoughts.
Post # 91
I understand why you’re upset, I probably would be too. Okay, I definitely would. But here’s a Sex and the City quote for you, leave it to Miranda to keep everyone in line:
Charlotte: Carrie, you’re right, you have to tell him. But not before the wedding, it’s supposed to be my week.
Miranda: It’s your day. You get a day. Not a week.
Post # 92
I have a bridal shower on the Saturday and another on the Sunday before my wedding. My cousin also got married in the dominican one month before our wedding, so we had to fork out 2500 for that. Its all good I think, its not like its on your wedding day.
Post # 93
@sarindipity: You have handled the bee attack so much more gracefully than I have ever seen someone handle it. 🙂 Kudos.
Post # 94
@sarindipity: GIRL I AM SOOOOOOO ON YOUR SIDE!!! I had to stop reading some of these posts. You are not being selfish these are the festivities and excitement leading up to YOUR BIG DAY!!!Really? The week before? Couldn’t wait the following week or the next month?!!
Now with that being said i totally agree with what AmeliaBedelia stated Handle this with grace. It will set the tone for a long time to come. It’s okay to be internally upset, but I would not verbalize this to ANYONE.
Post # 95
@tntrav44: “You have handled the bee attack so much more gracefully than I have ever seen someone handle it. 🙂 Kudos.”
Ditto to this.
Post # 96
I don’t see anything wrong with that. It’s a week before, not the day before or day of your wedding.
Post # 97
Just a quick epilogue – Fiance’s sister did get engaged this past Saturday and we drove up to Manhattan (from Philadelphia) to celebrate. I was so glad that I didn’t make a fuss about the engagement to his family and you were all SO right, it did not “steal our thunder” and it was all really fun to see her so happy. She was so sweet and kept making a point to tell me how excited she was for our wedding and I knew that I totally did the right thing by letting her have her moment because she’d let us have our moment for the past year and a half of our engagement. And, on top of all of that, my fiance’s family and FSIL’s new fiance’s family thought I was the most gracious bride for driving 3 hours to Manhattan the week before the wedding. All in all – totally win, win. Thank you for all of your help – I literally never would have been able to see this situation with any perspective without your responses and advice! FSIL’s engagement really added to the celebrations, not detracted!
Post # 98
@sarindipity: Congrats on your FSIL’s engagement, your upcoming wedding and for being so classy and gracious under the attack of some Bees.
Post # 99
I got engaged 3 weeks before my sisters wedding. They decided to have a 1 year and a half engagement full of parties and celebrating THEM. It’s definately messed up if they expect nobody to move on in their lives but them. They didn’t even congratulate us on our engagement. I had to call her and tell her the details. So in answer to your question the WORLD DOESN’T REVOLVE AROUND YOUR WEDDING. Like someone said on here you get a freakin day and if your upset about someone else getting engaged then I would guess you are very insecure and selfish.
Post # 100
But good job in realizing that because my sister is still making my life hell….she is so jealous and not even asking me any questions about my wedding. I am talking to all my friends about my plans. It’s like she doesn’t even care. So Thank you for sticking to that! can you call my sister? haha!
Post # 101
@sarindipity: What a great end to the story! You sound like a very classy lady, and I’m sure your family thinks so as well. You handled it great – a little secret freak-out but nice and calm and collected in public 😛
Post # 102
@sarindipity:I’m so glad to hear that!
Post # 103
@sarindipity: Congrats to you! I’m really happy things worked out so well!