Post # 1
Hello my fellow Bee’s.
I am brand new to this site and would like some honest advice. Please don’t hesitate to inform me that I am being a Bridezilla, I just need to know if I am loosing it or not!
I will make this quick and painless as possible..lol
Alright, so for the past month or two I have been searching for DJ’s in our area to no avail. We have a very tight budget and I refuse to pay $1800 for a DJ. Sorry, not happening.
SO! I recently just found this DJ who is literally less than HALF of what these other DJ’s are going for.. AND he is excellent!! Very nice, willing to work with us with some things I want and such.
This afternoon I was just informed by my Fiance that we can no longer use him because his brother’s WIFE use to date the DJ. WTF?! ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!? So, because she use to date him almost 10 years ago, and is now happily (?) married, I am being told I cannot use the DJ that best suits our budget because it will be awkward for his brother and wife???!!?!?!? NOT HAPPY!!!!! What do I do?!!?
Post # 3
Wow this is a first…. It was ten years ago, they should get over it. I am with you.
Post # 5
Screw her. I’d book the DJ.
Post # 6
I know.. isn’t this ridiculous? Annnnd the kicker… IM being selfish because IM not “understanding” of his brother and his wife. Girls, I want to seriously rip my hair out. We had this planned to book this DJ TONIGHT for weeks now.. IM so furious.
Post # 7
That’s insane! Unless they want to pay for your DJ they have no say in who you book. They need to get over it, it was 10+ years ago! I’d tell your Fiance you are booking him since he will fit your budget and work with you on things. They need to grow up.
Post # 8
how did they find out your DJ is a past bf?
If it’s 10 years ago, I say they should let it go. It’s not like your SIL is miserable right now anyways…
that being said…if your FI’s family insist on switching DJ…
I will either have your SIL help you find a DJ that cost the same/less…seems like you still have more than a year to go,
or they foot the bill for extra cost for the DJ if they have special request on DJ.
Honestly, DJ sits at his booth the whole night anyways…he shouldn’t be walking around talking to guests…
Post # 9
Is he guessing it’ll be a problem or does he know it’ll be a problem? Ask the Fiance to call his sister-in-law NOW and ask her if she has a significant issue with it. Maybe she doesn’t and it’s a moot point.
You never know how the relationship ended – violence, cheating, etc. You don’t want to bring that into your wedding (if he goes nutty) nor I hope, do you want to greatly upset the SIL. I find it hard to believe only one DJ is in your price range. So, if SIL would be greatly upset…it sucks, but yes start looking again. I found several options in my price range (well below $1800).
Post # 10
Alright, then they can pay half the cost of another DJ. If they’re not up for that, which I suspect they won’t be, go ahead and book this guy.
Post # 11
You certainley should be able to use him! If she is uncomfortable she doesn’t have to come! Not sure how she would be 10 yeras and a husband later!
Post # 12
@Bazinga: That’s what I said!! If they want to pay the difference between the two DJ’s then fine, I will go with someone else. I am NOT paying more f-ing money for a DJ that WE don’t have the money for!!! Who the hell do these people think they are?? His brother is so whipped by the woman it’s sickening. I just have a gut feeling if we go with this DJ she will tell my fiance’s brother she isn’t going to the wedding, which if you are going to act like that, is FINE by me.. because I have new for her, there is only 1 Diva on my wedding day and that’s ME.
Post # 13
You are def not being a bridezilla! It’s ridiculous, they need to get over it!
Get another DJ, but ask them to fork over the money to cover hiring a pricier DJ (j/k) = P
Post # 14
Was it a significant relationship?
Because i can see how it would be uncomfortble, but we all need to be adults and move on.
Post # 15
I would tell your Fiance that he needs to come up with the $1800, or better yet have his brother and his wife pay for the DJ since they are the ones making it a big deal.
Post # 16
I understand if it was like last week she broke up with him, but 10 years. Really? AND happily married. Aren’t we all adults here?