Post # 32
No, I don’t think so. We had a smallish wedding (75 people) and I only wanted my closest friends up there with me, which ended up being my best friend and my cousin who I’m close to. His sister and I get along, but she’s more of a tomboy, very independent, and lives in another state so I honestly never even considered asking her. I don’t think she felt left out and she probably would have been a bit annoyed if I asked and she felt obligated to do it and have to buy the dress and all.
Post # 33
It really depends on the situation. But there’s no better way to show your intention of joining two families then asking her. She can always say no.
Post # 34
I’m NOT asking my FI’s two sisters to be bridesmaids. I’m not close to them, they’re younger, and, quite frankely – they’re spoiled brats. My two brothers will actually not be groomsmen, either, so it won’t be noticeable to others, but they’re still, of course, being brats about it. Honestly, I don’t care – my bridesmaids (actually just one MOH) is the only thing in our wedding that I have control over (besides my dress) and I’m not backing down and doing something I REALLY don’t want to just to make them happy.
Post # 35
I’m not asking my FI’s sister to be in the wedding party. We discussed it when we began planning, and with her son (5 yrs old) and the fact that we’re not close at all..it seemed forced and more awkward for her to be included! She’ll already be at the rehearsal dinner, etc, so it’s not like she’ll be excluded from anything. I don’t think she cares. I’m also not expecting Fiance to include my (three) brothers in his side of the wedding party. They’ll be ushers or something!
Post # 36
I don’t think its absolutely necessary. Every situation is different!
My FI’s sister will be in my wedding because she is only a few years older than I am and I really get along with her. And it helps that we will be family 🙂
Post # 37
In my world, it was mandatory… should be fine…
Post # 38
nope – we’re not inviting my brother OR his (half) sister into our wedding party. We’re just not close to them.
Post # 39
Nope. My OWN sister is not in my wedding party. Pick who you want. But still be gracious about it, definitely.
Post # 40
I don’t think it’s necessary but highly reccomended. Afterall she will soon be family. You will be seeing her on tons of family functions for the rest of your life. My FI’s sister is going to be a bridesmaid. It just felt right to have her included since our bridal party consists of the people most important to us.
Post # 41
I wanted my FI’s little sister to be in ours–I didn’t feel right about leaving her out. I think it depends on the size of your wedding party, the number of siblings you both have, their age, and how close they are to your Fiance. It’s easier to not include them if you have a small wedding party.
Post # 42
My Future Sister-In-Law has been an absolute lifesaver with the wedding planning, I am so glad that I asked her!
Post # 43
I would have to say yes!
In my fam its a given. Its also a better way to open new doors to a NEW family that is being joined by the marriage. MY Fiance has three siblings (triplets) even though thats THREE that have to be fit into our wedding and plus my brother, thats FOUR people that were “automatics” ya it can be hard when it comes to your friends, but a real friend would understand. Its as simple as ITS FAMILY!!! Plus I honestly cant understand not wanting to, if your close or not. can honestly say I am not that close to my Fiance sisters, but would not have it any other way!
Thats just me though, i was raised with a really close family, as was my FI!
Post # 44
My SIL was a bridesmaid and I did not feel pressured to ask her. I’m really glad that she was up there with us as her brother and I were getting married. I wouldn’t have had it any other way.
I’m not particularly close with her, but the boy has a really small and close knit family and I know that her being up there meant alot to him (and me, too!).
Post # 45
Its actually bringing me and the fsil closer together! go for it!
Post # 46
My fiance is actually having his sister stand up as his “Best Man” in our wedding. Im gonna put her in a black dress to match the rest of teh groomsmen. My brother is getting married in June and I am a bridesamid in his wedding. He came right out and told his fiance that I am his only sibling so I must be in teh wedding somehwhere. She doesn’t have a problem with it and I am having both my brother and his new wife in my wedding in November!