Post # 31
binxxsays: I think it’s weird that people are expected to have their FI’s sisters in their wedding party just becasue they are his sisers…. My Fiance has 2 sisters and it wouldn’t even cross my mind to ask them to be in my bridal party…
In your case though, if people are expecting it and you are down 2 spots… I would just ask them both.
Post # 32
Ask them both, but if they’ve been unpleasant to you in the past, limit their involvement to wearing dresses and standing up with you at the altar (and mayyybe attending the shower). Do not invite them to your bachelorette, where everyone will be drinking and there is the potential for drama. Based on the way they’ve treated you up until this point, it sounds like they probably won’t want to be involved much anyway. This way, no one is going to ask (to your face or behind your back) why they were snubbed, even if a snub would be justifiable under the circumstances.
I don’t think you can ask one without asking the other, unfortunately. Better to snub both than just one, especially the one who already dislikes you and will probably dislike you even more if you ask her sister and not her.