I have an update about the situation and a few responses to the other comments.
-We live in a very small community and our reception venue is the only one available that can accomodate our guest numbers. The other couple booked before we did, so we didn’t have a choice but to change the date and a week sooner was the only one available.
-Yes, I was having some extreme issues with my Fiance a few months back. We have gone thru quite a few retreats and counseling sessions through our church that have really helped with these issues.
– He still wakes me up at night sometimes, but not in the manner that he used to. Just by trying to cuddle with me, which I do not like since he more or less has conditioned me to hate being touched when I’m sleeping. His fault he gets no cuddles, not my problem.
– I will not deny that my Fiance has a problem with taking care of his son on his own. He is not the most responsible person in the world, but he is working on getting better. He has been in a “getting taken care of” mindset for so long he has a hard time putting anyone else’s needs and wants before his own. Which is a bad fault to have for sure, but I am making him face that fault. I don’t take care of him anymore, he is responsible for himself in every way. It took me awhile to figure out that I had to take it to this extreme to where I did nothing for him, but that is what it takes with him. He is also made to take care of his son when we have him. I don’t neglect his son by any means and would never allow him to go without care, but I make sure that my Fiance is the one putting in the time and the work with him. I want him to learn to be a good dad before we have kids of our own.
So please take my past posts with a grain of salt. I was angry when I wrote them for one, and for two he has changed a lot. He is not perfect by any means. But no one is, and despite his flaws I love him very much and want to for the rest of my life.
Now here’s the update on this glorious situation.
I talked to my Fiance last night, and he agrees that his ex should not be at the wedding. He talked to his ex last night and he DID finally stand up for me. He did make me out to kind of be the villian to his ex, but if thats what has to happen I’m fine with it. I texted his ex via his phone and actually got her to agree to letting us have him for pictures and the ceremony. Which in my opinion, is all a 3 year old really needs to be involved in. His ex was happy to work something out with us for that to work. So finally at last her and I are on the same page. But then, my Fiance decides that his son HAS to be at the reception. This is where his ex has a problem, because it will be crowded and people will be drinking and a 3 year old is difficult to watch in such a setting. I agree with her. I am 100% happy with the compromise that we had about photos and the ceremony, but my Fiance is not. He is not wanting to budge and now him and his ex are in a full out argument about it and I am still being villianized in the whole thing. Preferably I would like his son to go home with his mother after the ceremony because it will already be a long day for him and we will be busy anyways. I told my Fiance that he can do what he wants, if he wants his son there that is up to him, but I will NOT have his ex there. So if he can get his ex to agree to something than thats his business, but I don’t think she’s going to budge on the reception and I can’t say I really blame her.