Post # 1
My FI works in a research lab and since he’s taking on and off gloves all day as well as washing his hands all the time it’s really impractical for him to wear a wedding ring on a daily basis. Still I really want him to buy a wedding ring (any style he wants) so I that I hae something for the ceremony and any special occasions. Is that wierd of me? (and in case anyone suggests tattooed rings, he thinks tattoos are cool on other people but never on him).
Anyone else have FI wedding ring issues? How did you resolve it?
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s weird that you want to get him one. It’s going to be so nice to see it on his hand sometimes, I love wedding rings on men.
My guy isn’t sure he’ll like to wear a ring, but I told him I was going to get him one. He doesn’t have to wear it unless he wants to. (I mean, I would be bugged if he constantly demanded that I wear mine.) I think he’s going to try it though. Awesome!
How we resolved it: I offered the same thing- any style he wants. He let me pick mine, after all. He wanted a titanium one, which coincidentally is the absolute cheapest thing you can pick. (I would have been happy to buy him a platinum one!) His ring cost $10 on amazon.
I think he likes that it’s not valuable and he doesn’t have to be worried about losing or wrecking it. Neither one of use is particularly sentimental, so we would just buy another one. But I added that if he changed his mind and wanted a fancier one, then I would get him one as an anniversary present.
Post # 4
I have a similar issue. My FI finds rings super uncomfortable, yet it was he who insisted he wanted to wear one, and picked it himself. It’s somewhat affordable, at $175. I’d be surprised if he ends up wearing more than once in a while, honestly. But that doesn’t really matter – surely you’ll have plenty of parties, social and family events, etc. to go to… just think of it as part of his formal outfit 🙂
Post # 5
@renwoman: My husband is a nurse, and so he’s got the glove/hand washing thing too, so we just got him a really low-profile ring with no stones (bacteria!!!). He wears it to work and as far as I know,it hasn’t been an issue for him. That said, I see no problem with getting him a ring to wear just at home or on special occasions or whatever the both of you are comfortable with. If nothing else, you can get a more affordable sterling ring for the ceremony, and since he won’t wear it all the time, it should hold up really well.
Post # 6
@renwoman: he cn wear it on a chain… Depending on the type of lab he is working in (I worked in cancer research so it was more biological than chemical)
Post # 7
@babypearls: I like the idea! He’s not much of a chain guy, but I will suggest it anyway.
Post # 8
My fiance is in the military and can’t always wear his ring for safety reasons. He will definitely still get one, but we prob won’t spend a ton on it.
Post # 9
@renwoman: No, its not weird. Because whenhe is not at work, he can wear it. Special occasions, etc
Post # 10
My fiance plays basketball, and from that has broken his fingers multiple times. his left ring finger is super crooked because it has been broken a few times so it is really hard to even get a ring on and keep it on for a long time. he has already told me that he won’t wear it all the time and if he does it may be on the right hand. I let him pick whatever he wanted and he chose a tungsten carbide ring off amazon for $15! (they were selling the exact same rings in a jewelry shop we looked at for $550 wth!?) this way if something happens to it it won’t be a loss. he loses stuff all the time. I will be happy any time he wears it but won’t feel like it is such a waste if he doesn’t. I think you should definitely still get him one even if it is just for the exchange at the ceremony! 😉
Post # 11
I’m in a similar situation, my SO is a officer and it’s not practical for him to wear a blingy ring. I opt to get him a plain white gold band, he love it!!!
Post # 12
We have a similar situation as well. FI is a robotics engineer, and spends a lot of time in a manufacturing plant, so he can’t wear a band for safety reasons. We’re still going all out, and getting him a blingy band to wear when he isn’t working. And I think his band costs more than what we’re having custom designed for me!
Post # 13
I think it’s a great to still have one if he wants it. But would it really be that bad to just waer it? Assuming it fits well, I don’t think it’d be too in the way of gloves. My dental hygenist wears her lovely halo e-ring and wedding band, and I’m sure that is more obstructive than a mens plain band.
Post # 14
Similarly, my FI won’t probably wear his ring at work much. He works in a lab also, and sometimes with lasers and the risk of reflecting the laser off it into an eye is apparently something they worry about.
We still got us both rings because we thought it was an important symbol – both for the ceremony and just to have even if it is not worn that much. He can wear it for the wedding and hopefully when he’s not working (although I suspect it will only be on special occasions or something like that).
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@Susanlee178: my guy is a nurse too, and he’s very adamant about not wearing his ring at work because “it’s too special to get poop on” – haha! We might do the chain thing too.
Post # 16
@lolot: -laugh- that is awesome. Between the two of us, (I’m a mortician) we deal with so much ick, that it doesn’t even register anymore.