Post # 1
We are having an outdoor wedding in September. The BMs are wearing cocktail length dresses. Two of my Bridesmaid or Best Man love high stilletos because they are shorter and two love comfy flat shoes (in wide) because they are taller and have large feet. What are your thoughts about matching or non-matching shoes?
Post # 3
We had this problem when I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in my bestie’s wedding. She originally wanted matching shoes but changed her mind when she realised that her sister wanted heels, the other Bridesmaid or Best Man wanted flats and I wanted something in between. We went for non-matching but they all had to be Silver. Anyway, in the end her sister found a pair of blue heels (our dresses were blue) and loved them so much that her sister wore blue heels, I wore silver wedges and the other Bridesmaid or Best Man wore silver flats. I thought it was going to look awful but it really didn’t. No one pays any attention to the bridesmaid’s feet anyway! In the end we were all happy and it looked perfectly fine!
Post # 4
I must say i sort of picture 2 girls battling it out when i first read the title..my im silly today! he! I say if the look you are going for allows them to wear their shoes let them, personally i would not make my Bridesmaid or Best Man wear something they are not comfortable wearing. Good luck! and hope you figure it out!
Post # 5
My BMs were also unable to agree on heel height so I told them to all get navy satin heels and even found a brand which had a couple of different styles that fit this criteria and asked them to buy from that brand to ensure they have the same color navy. Thus far, one of 3 purchased her shoes and she’ happy with her mid height sandals. Another Bridesmaid or Best Man found a higher heeled peep toe shoe she plans to buy.
Post # 6
My bridesmaids are all different heights and have different preferences. I chose a color, and asked them all to choose comfortable shoes in that color. I figure that, when I go to weddings, I notice the maids’ shoes for about a second before moving my attention elsewhere. My bridesmaids are wearing shorter dresses, too.
Post # 7
I really like Slicey’s idea as well! Davids bridal has different styles i believe and they are dyeable.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
I don’t think it matters if the Bridesmaid or Best Man shoes match, no one notices them!
Post # 9
I think it’s best to let them all wear whatever shoes they wants. Nobody thinks twice about what’s on their feet!
Post # 10
I agree in letting them wear what’s comfortable. Can you imagine one of the taller girls not comfortable in heels freaking out about walking down the aisle?
Also, I’ll add a little plug. Personally I like to allow BMs a color that is wearable again. Like black, silver etc. That way they have a better selection to choose from, can probably find something less expensive, and can wear them again.
Post # 11
I’d say tell them to get the same color and maybe basic style (strapy or peeptoe, etc.) but let them have the heal heights they prefer. I would hate being asked to wear really high heals, even for half an hour and especially outdoors. I just couldn’t do it. But the shorter girls might feel really self conscious standing next to taller girls without the extra height they are used to. So let them each have the heals they are comfortable with.
Post # 12
I agree, i think you should just have them stay all in the same color family, besides different style shoes in the same color would look unique.
Post # 13
I let my BM’s have the rein on this one. I did ask that they stick with silver, but as far as heel height, or even material- I couldn’t care less. I’ve found that if I don’t worry about too many details, or too much cohesion, it elliminates stress later on.
Post # 14
I don’t think it matters. No one is going to be looking at the BMs feet.
Post # 15
I have a hard time with this because the OCD side of me thinks that they should all wear the same shoes, and it would drive me crazy if they didn’t match. However, my logical side says it makes more sense that they wear what is comfortable for them.
I’d say let them wear what they are comfortable in. Every time I have a decision like this to make I repeat the phrase that I’ve seen on the hive a lot. “No one cares about your wedding as much as you do.” They will look great no matter what you decide 🙂
Post # 16
My girls are wearing cocktail length magenta dresses and I told them to choose whatever silver shoes they like. Ony stipulation- no flip flops and no hooker shoes 🙂