Post # 1
Darling Husband and I just had a small tiff and I just want some opinions..
I have acne which affects my self confidence.Â
I’m sitting in the the lounge room drinking some diet pepsi and watching TV. Darling Husband walks in the room and gets annoyed at me for drinking diet pepsi. He said that he has told me before I need to drink more water to keep hydrated to help clear my acne.
I got a bit upset because I feel like he is picking at me. He is upset because he feels disrespected that I complain about my acne, he gives advice and I “don’t listen”.Â
Argh! Anyone else have this kind of problem?Â
Post # 3
Yes…I am self conscious about my weight. Fiance knows that I’m not happy with this. He has made suggestions to help me get this under control. They haven’t been mean suggestions. I will just get angry at times, because it’s something that I have to own. I’m the one that has to make the decision to exercise, eat better, etc. We’ve gotten into arguments because I will tell him that I want him to support me, but then I get angry when he makes suggestions at times. After a few times of riding this ride, I finally said that it was something I needed to own. If he wanted to help, he can ask me, “What can I do to help?”. In turn, I’m going to try to be honest with him. Also, I’m going to try to control my venting to him. Since he’s tried to help me and I have shot down his suggestions, I can’t constantly come down on myself to him. I can’t have it both ways.
I don’t know if something like this will work for you, but so far, it’s been helpful for us.
Post # 4
Just gently tell him that you were not asking for advice, just a listening ear. And that it hurts your feelings when you comment on such a sensitive topic for you.
Post # 5
@keepsmiling19: I’m exactly the same way!
Post # 6
I had acne too. It’s genetics. Not pop. Water helps but get medical help.
I once used a prescription to clear it up when I was younger & i am now a faithful proactive user to keep clear!
I’d probably point out something he doesn’t need to be doing but that’s just me. ; )