(Closed) Fighting For Past 3 Days In A Row…(T_T) **long**

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2289 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Ouch! So sorry 🙁

As you said, counseling tonight. It sounds like it’s just the pressure getting to him. Had you two talked about this earlier?

Post # 4
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sorry you guys are fighting.  It sounds like the two of you are very disjointed about this wedding.  I think you need to sit down and talk about it.  It is too late for him to change his mind and have the two of you have a civil ceremony.  It really sounds like you are doing a great job with budgeting for that size ceremony.

Post # 5
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1854 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Wow, sorry to hear that. Sounds like he accepted to go your way to make you happy and is not feeling some resentment. But the choice is made and even if you can cut as much as possible in future expenses, it’s not like you can take back what’s already done.. He has to live with the fact that he agreed to this. 3500$ is a very reasonable budget for a wedding! But maybe there’s more under this that he’s not saying… He’s stressed and you are too so it doesn’t help.
Definitely address this in counseling… Hope it gets better, soon!

Post # 6
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2398 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Wow.  Sounds as though he’s got some feelings about the wedding that he’s handling very inappropriately.

It’s fine if he feels differently about things than you do, but it’s not okay for him to speak to you that way or belittle your wants/needs.  Definitely bring this up with your counsellor, as he needs to know the effect his words have on you and acceptable ways of expressing himself.

Post # 7
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972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Wow! First of all, props to you for pulling off a 125 ppl wedding at $3500! Thats amazing, I would love to know how you did that.  

Me and Fiance fought alot too at the beginning and we’ve learned that communication is definatley the key, men dont like surprises, they want to know everything before hand, it gives them some kind of authorative position and thats what they want.  During my wedding planning I was adding certain people to our guest list and didnt tell him about it until they sent back the rsvp and he got really upset, then we communicated and from then on we come to each other on any changes or additions we want to make and we’re fine now.  We dont believe in therapy but I hope it works for you guys.

Post # 8
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1765 posts
Buzzing bee

Wow-Is there something else going on?  And he is just choosing the wedding as something to lash out against?  $3500.00 is such a small amount of money-especially for a large amount of guests.  I can’t hardly imagine how you did that!  I think you REALLY need to get to the bottom of whatever this is @ counseling tonight!!! Best to you, hugs. 

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