Post # 1
I know its stress. I know what stress fights feel and sound like. Plus this damn Depo shot is causing my hormones to go insane.
But I hate it. We aren’t the couple that yells at each other. We don’t storm off in the middle of a fight. I don’t cry. I hate that we are like this. I just… ugh. I feel like we are failing. If we are fighting this much before the wedding, what will it be like after?
We moved in together in January. Thats part of it too. So not only are we planning a wedding, we are getting used to being around each other 24/7. Coming from a LDR, its tough.
Even the fights? Stupid. Its mostly about money. Being stressed because of a lack of money. I got kicked out of school for a semester. My hours got cut at work. His hours got cut. Its A LOT. And he doesn’t worry at all! I do.
This probably makes no sense but I had to type it out. I feel semi better. Someone pleaaaaaase tell me this stress dies down AFTER the wedding please?
Post # 3
You have a lot of stress in your life with the wedding planning ALONE – adding moving in together, school, less hours at work will definitely add to the pressure. yes, it does get better after the wedding because you are no longer planning a huge event and spending tons of money. But, try and focus on your relationship right now, that’s the most important thing. At teh end of the day, the most important thing to remember is that you are marrying the love of your life. Can you both somehow remind each other of that? Can you cut out extra costs of the wedding? Trust me, when it’s all over, those extra favors and little decorations won’t really matter that much.
Post # 4
I don’t know if it will or won’t but I’m sending hugs your way.
I could give you all the advice in the world right now but the truth is, when you snap or get irritable there is often no way to talk yourself down. I bet that he is worried about money just like you are, sometimes they just think/act differently when upset.
You can get through this!
Post # 5
gosh yes – we never argued until we became engaged and i remember saying to him one night we wont make the wedding date as a couple if we kept fighting over stupid stuff like invites and guest lists. goodluck and remember to take some time out as a couple to enjoy yourselves – dont let the wedding be in ever conversation