(Closed) Fighting with FI about blowjobs

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 32
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Cum to me has the same consistency of snot. It usually doesn’t taste the best, however I love giving blow jobs so I get him to the point where I know he is going to finish and then finish with a handjob. My SO doesn’t have very much pre-cum, so that is not an issue. I would hate to give up BJ’s, it is just as much pleasure for me pleasing him.

Post # 33
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Pineapple!!

Post # 34
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

I can see him getting upset about the BJ issue a little bit. If he is going down all the time, it seems a little unfair to say you won’t until you have explored all the options for trying to make it better. If it’s still nasty to you after you’ve tried one thing, but I think he at least deserves for you to investigate your options further if truly the only thing bothering you is the taste.

As far as the anal, that’s a completely different story. It can be pretty dangerous and there’s really no way to reciprocate. I personally see it as a little antifeminist, and told him that I’d be willing to try when he was willing to be … similarly explored. He hasn’t brought it up since.

Post # 35
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1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Try Virgin Coconut Oil as a lube. It tastes good and is great for your skin and lips!

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Anal would be out of the question.I would probably get creative with the bj.sounds like there are plenty of option out there.maybe one of those products will be helpful.good luck!

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

I’ve heard that meat can really alter the taste as well.  But I guarantee that if he smokes, and is eating fast food crap all the time – then its not gonna be good, and its gonna taste horrible. 

Not too sure if you’re going to like the flavoured lubes – I’m married to a chick so I probably have more experience with these than a lot of you gals here, but the flavoured lubes are gross to me (I also think the flavoured flouride at the denstits is gross too, and i gag).  Changing diet is the #1 fix. 

Fruit makes it better, particularly pineapple.  Also its not just about not letting him finish in your mouth, because you said its the precum thats gross. 

Have him fix his diet and stop smoking.

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I think REGARDLESS of diet etc, some men will ALWAYS have nasty tasting cum. Ive had long term relationships with a good handful of men and ”diet” didnt always help. Some are just better than others. ALSO, I find it depends how often they cum in general. I found that my Fiance will taste a bit bad if he hasnt ejaculated for a week or something as opposed to a day.

I dont mind the taste anyway, even its bad. I do swallow but I will always have water near for when I do swallow I have something to chase it with after lol

Any advice will be what PP’s said. Flavored lube etc… Sometimes setting yourself up to be grossed out wont help either and I think you really gotta loveeeee giving head to get past the initial distaste. If I didnt actually enjoy giving head as much as I do, I probably wouldnt be able to stomach it as good.

 

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

@WingardiumLeviosa:  Solution=ask him to wear a condom. If you’re good then it doesn’t lessen the feeling at ll. i know pineapple juice works with cum but maybe it’ll improve the taste of pre cum too? 

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t see why he thinks it’s okay to make such a big deal about it. It’s not something you like to do, so he shouldn’t even want you to do something you don’t want to. I’m sure if he stopped smoking & drank more pineapple juice he would taste a lot better.

Post # 44
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

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@MissFireFlower:  Omg. I need this.

Post # 45
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

This was a great post to read :p Good to hear from other ladies on the ‘voodoo’ topics out there!

Post # 46
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2013

He is being unreasonable. He shouldn’t expect you to do something that you don’t enjoy at all, much less very often. The fact that you do give bjs sometimes shows that you’re willing to do things for him, regardless of how it makes you feel. He should be appreciative of this, not mad! Also, GOOD FOR YOU for being honest with him about your feelings! He shouldn’t have asked if he didn’t want to know the truth. Lots of women would have lied, worsening the problem.

The fact that he is pressuring you to do things you don’t want to do is a bigger issue, IMO. My recommendation would be to have an honest, open talk with him about his pressuring you/his unrealisitic view of sex. If he can’t get past it, that’s something you have to take in to consideration.

Best of luck!

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