@Sunfire: It’s really stupid. His phone got messed up and he lost all of his contacts and he was trying to subtly allude to the fact that he wanted to know certain numbers so he would know which ones NOT to answer. I knew he was refereing to a couple of his exs but his friend kept asking who he was talking about. When he told him, he kept asking “Oh, is she the one you did this with?” “Is she the one you bought this for?” to the point where it was getting really irritating. I gave my SO a look like “What? This is all news to me.” When he friend saw he upset me, he was like “Oh whoops? Sorry.”
I would have just let it go, but then I was alone in the car with his friend and his friend apologized again but starting telling me information that was contradictory to things my SO had said about their relationship, like how long is lasted and how it was more serious than he had made it sound. So now I’m mad because I’m getting two different stories, and I had to find out about this from his friend who I was not a fan of at the moment, and we were in an awkward situation because we were on a trip with a few of his friends so we had no privacy to discuss it.
When we finally did discuss it, I told him everything that had upset me and told him if there was anything else he had negelected to tell me, tell me now and get it overwith. After explaining the whole situation with the other girl, I found out about other exs he had that he had never told me about, and that friends that were girls that he had talked about before were actually ex’s. I asked him why he never told me about them before and he said it brought back painful memories, and said I never talked about my exs. I said I understood because it brings back painful memories too, but I don’t make an effort to hide relationships either. After hours of fighting, we finally made up. Or so I thought.
The next morning, things were still awkward bewteen us, and we were supposed to all leave together to go sightseeing at a place where his friend worked. We were still in bed, and his friend popped in and said he was leaving in 15 minutes and SO really wanted to go with him. I wanted us to leave with someone else we were staying with that had a car because there was no way I’d be ready in 15 minutes, and I wanted SO to stay behind with me since we were not completely ok yet. He said he wanted to leave right away, and left with his friend. This led to another fight which led to us making up again temporarily, then he’d say something insensitive, which led to another fight, then we’d temporarily make up…etc. It went on like this all weekend.
By the time we got home last night, we were so emotionally exhausted with each other that it led to yet another fight, and this one was particularly snarky and nasty because we were both walking zombies at this point since our train was late and we didn’t get home until 2am.
I don’t want this to keep happening and I’m terrified that our headbutting will eventually be the thing that kills this. 🙁