(Closed) Fighting with your significant other: Who DOESN’T do it?

posted 10 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Do you and your significant other NEVER fight?

    Never

    Sometimes

    What is wrong with you?!

    Other (Explain below)

  • Post # 17
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I think we’ve fought a total of two times in as many years and I wouldn’t even call them fights.  What’s good about Fiance is that he’s great at talking things out and approaches me in a very rational way to solve any issues.

    Post # 18
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Not yet! We’re like some of the other people who posted in this thread; easy going, talkers, and we don’t raise our voices at each other or get aggressive. I’m guilty of sulking though, and I’ve seen him lose his temper a few times, which isn’t fun to experience. If something ever comes up that feels worth a fight, I hope I’ll remember to step back and remind myself it’s definitely not worth a “fight.” Worth fighting for maybe, but only in constructive ways. 

    Post # 19
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Nope, we really don’t fight either! We get into small disagreements, and sometimes we need our space, but we don’t go screaming at each other. Often, if we come across a disagreement, we just look at each other and start laughing. No you’re not going to get along all the time, and no everything won’t be hunky dorey, but it IS possible to have a relationship and NOT fight! People would call me crazy when I said that me and Fiance don’t fight–like we’re crazy or we aren’t expressing ourselves enough.

    I come from a family of fighters, my mom and dad are constantly at each others throats and I just can’t stand to ever be in a relationship like that. So no worries, it’s completely normal not to fight!

    Post # 20
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Yes, we fight, but we have gotten better at how we fight, thankfully.

    Every person in my life who is important to me and who I love–mom, sisters, best friends–I have fought with.

    Post # 21
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    Sugar bee

    Corgitales- Wow, I thought it was just me. I felt the same way about Disney World!LOL And know what? My SO wants to get married there and I kinda like the idea once I saw all the info he had and packages.LOL

    Post # 22
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We get snappy with each other sometimes.  I think when you spend a lot of time with someone they are bound to get on your nerves once in a while.  We’ve had fights where we’ve raised our voices maybe 2-3 times out of a 4.5 year relationship.  We’ve never gone without talking for more than 20 minutes (maybe even less).

    Post # 23
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    My husband and I NEVER EVER fight about anything. We talk everything out when it comes up. We’ve had points where I’ve cried over feeling so alone being at home alone all week. We’ve never yelled, hit, smacked, or even raised our voices at each other.

    Post # 24
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Like a pp said, I think the answer might depend on what you consider “fighting” to be. To me, “fighting” would include: screaming/yelling, storming out of a house, being intentionally mean, threatening to break up with someone, insulting the other person, any sort of physical violence, throwing items, etc.

    We’ve had disagreements and there have been miscommunications (sometimes with hurt feelings due to misunderstandings) but we’ve never fought. When we disagree, I tend to get very quiet and need some space for a bit, he tends to talk to sit down and talk everything out immediately. We’ve both had to work at making sure we are being good communicators. But I voted “no”, because we don’t fight (and honestly, rarely disagree or have any sort of argument/disagreement/etc.) We really try to deal with issues as they arise, and not let them escalate.

    Honestly, this is the “easiest” relationship I’ve ever had! We just click, and we just don’t fight. 😉

    Post # 25
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    In four years my Fiance and I have only had one fight. That fight was truly a breaking point for us, we generally have very good communication but we had a breakdown in that for some reason, we hit a wall I guess. Since then (over a year ago) things have actually been better than they were before because we really value our communication skill and respect each other even more because we don’t fight ‘dirty’ like some of our couple friends do. Honestly when we hang out with them when we get home we talk about how much we appreciate each other because I can’t imagine talking down to him or vice versa. I think that as long as you aren’t ignoring the issues and avoiding topics on purpose that there is nothing wrong with not fighting! If it works for you and you’re open with eachother about sensitive topics I think you’re doing great!

    Post # 26
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    Busy bee

    We hardly ever fight (it hardly ever gets to that point- we will discuss and discuss) and when we do, it’s about his family.  That is the one thing we argue about.

    Post # 27
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Corgitales – I agree with you completly!

    Fiance is very level headed, logical, even keeled, I am much more emotional. Mostly this works out fine, ie: he can diffuse the situation. Overall our fight are few and far between and don’t last very long, but we’ve definetly fought before. 

    Post # 28
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

     We have disagreed on things- but have never really had what I would call a fight.

    Post # 29
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Humm we never used to fight before..but living together ( i moved to another country for him and i miss my loved ones)  planning a wedding alone having some drama with the family and financial stress have brought up few arguments..nothing big thu as WE ALWAYS talk and know each other very well..the big issue is he is VERY VERY VERYYYYY sensitive so he gets upset over simple silly things and acts like a little baby then i “baby” him and he is all good..but if i am tired..have a headache or just not a in a good mood..when he get upset for a very lame reason it ends up being a problem his goal to GET SHOWERED with even morel ove backfires into getting ignored…other than that no we do not and have not had a REAL FIGHT 🙂

    Post # 30
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We didn’t get into a “big fight” until around the 4 year mark I think? But even then I wouldn’t even consider it a huge fight. We’ve had disagreements here & there, but nothing major. For the most part we get along really well.

    Post # 31
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I fight him, he loves me. My Fiance is like many of yours… he’s super level headed & doesn’t engage when I get upset. He’s also 12 years older than me, so my style of fighting has drastically changed. I’ve had to grow up a lot.

    We’ve had spats throughout our relationship, but a big part of it is the distance. Whenever we “fight” its usually because we miss each other or just had a bad day & the other person wasn’t there. We’re so close to the finish line though, it’s getting easier. 🙂

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