Post # 1
I’m clueless here. Our wedding is on a Saturday. We are basically renting the church, which is actually part of a museum.. and we have the church from 8 am to 4pm. We can go past 4 for a small fee, so I’m okay with that.
We’re planning a restaurant reception immediately following… and the restaurant is about 3 or 4 blocks from the church. Everything is very close together, small town, but not sure how the weather will be so I don’t know if it’s going to be “walkable” or not. The restaurant expects our group for “dinner” but no set-in-stone time. They are open until 9:30 pm.
Our photographer said we only needed to alot for about a half hour for post-ceremony photos, since our wedding is very tiny. So I am not sure what to do with people (guests) during that time… ? We really can’t afford a cocktail hour or anything like that. Maybe I could try and have some little nibbles in the church basement?? the dinner reception wont’ be that far off though.. so do I need to? Any ideas?
That’s the main consideration in figuring out the ceremony time. I would like to push it towards the end of the day as much as possible because I know we will have so much to do on the day of and I know I am horrible about being late, want to allow myself as much time as possible for getting ready and helping our kids get ready. Plus then it’s closer to dinner when we leave.
So, I don’t have all the ceremony details worked out yet but I’m figuring probably 30 to 45 minues max for the length.
Any ideas on an ideal ceremony time? And what to do with the gap in between ceremony and arriving at the restaurant?
Post # 3
I’d say you’re good with that gap for pictures without adding anything. Give guests about 45 minutes to get to the restaurant, get situated, etc. and then you can enter. I’ve only really seen cocktail hours if there’s a gap of two hours or more between the wedding and reception.
Were you planning on lunch or dinner for the reception? For a lunch reception, I’d say the ceremony should start around 10 am or so, depending on the length…for dinner, maybe closer to 3:30 or something?
Post # 4
Our timeline is 5pm ceremony, 5:30-6:30 cocktails, 1/2 an hour to get next door to the hotel for dinner and get situated and then the reception is 7-11, with dinner at 7.
It depends on your ceremony, but I know that ours is only going to be 15-20 minutes. I think that 30 minutes is plenty of time to allot for ceremony. The only ones I’ve seen that have been longer are when the couple has tons of readings and stuff, or if it for religious rituals. If that’s you guys, then yeah, plan for 45 minutes-1 hour.
Post # 5
@Statutory Grape: Definitely lunch. I know there’s no way I’d make a 10 am ceremony without arriving half dressed! lol! it’s very DIY, we have no attendants or wedding party aside from our own children, small guest list, etc. So I have to do my own hair and makeup and help the kids with their outfits and so forth. Photog swears pics won’t take long at all but we will also have to get any “stuff” out of the church that we bring in (aisle runner, flowers, etc). shouldn’t be a lot of stuff but still, and I’m not sure if I will have to do anything to finalize the church rental afterwards or not.
@zippylef: Yeah I am trying to narrow it down to keep it around 30 minutes. I have to sort it all out, when I searched for ideas for readings and special ceremony factors and all I found WAY too much that I liked, obviously we can’t do it all so I gotta figure it out, but we want a handfasting ritual incorporated, and a bell ceremony and a wine thing and something involving the kids. i don’t want it dragging on forever of course, for the sake of our guests!
Post # 6
@MsInterpret: Yeah, we’re doing a traditional cord handfasting in our ceremony as well, as a nod to my very Irish/Scottish family. We wanted ours short and sweet, so we just picked the one “ritual” that was the most important to us (the handfasting) and did away with most of the other stuff. We thought about jumping the broom and doing a rose ceremony, but eventually decided against it. What is the bell ceremony? I dont think i’ve heard of that one.
Post # 7
@zippylef: It’s the “Truce Bell” ceremony, supposedly Irish in origin. Here’s the lazy cut & pasted explanatioN:
The tradition of the bell of truce comes from the peasants in the west of Ireland, but it may also be attributed to St. Patrick. He thought the sound of a bell ringing would help perform miracles.
In a wedding ceremony, the bell of truce is blessed and presented to the bride and groom by the ceremony officiant. The couple is asked to give the bell a good hardy ring while thinking of each other and their future together. It’s then taken home as a reminder of the wedding day. Whenever arguments arise, the rining of this bell sounds a truce. It serves as a reminder of the couple’s wedding vows.
We just like the idea a lot. I have both a Scottish and Irish background as does my Fiance. Moreso me. She’s also half Mexican. And we’re kind of quasi-pagan. So our desire for a handfasting comes from both the Celtic background and our general neo-pagan views. We have these awesome medieval looking wine goblets and wanted to do a wine ceremony, simple and short, like this:
The Unity Wine Ceremony serves the same purpose as the Unity Candle Ceremony. The wine ceremony is conducted as follows: usually there is a table that is set-up with the wine, both red wine and white wine in single carafes. These two wines are mix together into a large carafe. The groom pours the red wine and the bride pours the white wine. These two wines together create a blush wine. The groom then takes the large carafe of blush wine, and pours some into a glass for the bride. The bride then does the same for the groom. Lastly, the groom toasts to his bride, usually, “Now our lives are one,” and drinks. Then, she reciprocates the same toast back to him and she drinks. The officiant states that the wine ceremony signifies their union and commitment to each other.
the problem is there’s more. MUCH more. I just need to dedicate a weeekend to sorting it all out. 😉