(Closed) FIL and babies

posted 7 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
5654 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

I lived with my in-laws and my own mom and DS is MY CHILD…. while there were plenty of times where my mom would chat with me about some possible concerns SHE NEVER over stepped her bounds… And while I lived with the ex-in-laws they tried but still didn’t push to much b/c DS wasn’t their kid… I did have to put my foot down b/c they tried to go against alot of things I was trying to instill but they didn’t pull the “my house my rules” thing… not with that anyways.

I feel so sorry for your friend… that’s not right AT ALL! Hopefully she can get her Darling Husband on her side and they can establish that they are the parents.

Post # 5
46605 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

When I left my first husband, I moved back in with my parents with my 2 kids while I went back to school.  I sent the youngest to day care so that my Mom could carry on with most of her life. The eldest was in kindergarden.

My parents never once tried to tell me how to raise my children. They supported me in my decisions. I am forever grateful to them.

Post # 7
6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I really hope they are able to move out ASAP.

I wasn’t in this situation, exactly, as I was one of the children in this case. When my parents divorced we moved in with my maternal g-parents for a few months until Mom could afford all three of us kiddos plus rent.

My grandparents didn’t even BEGIN to try and control how my mother handled us. It was her business. If she ever has/had a parenting question, it is asked. Ya know? I’m sure they didn’t always agree with her choices but they respected her as a parent. Maybe it’s because she was 30+ and had three kids over the age of 2.

Just sharing from perspective as a child, I think it would be really confusing for the couple’s children. Who makes the rules, mommy or grandma? It should be without a doubt, mommy and daddy make the rules, not grandma and grandpa. Hopefully they move out before the kid gets TOO used to that.

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