Post # 1
FH finally stood up to his family today. The results were not pretty. :/
We have been living together since May closer to my family but very far from his. He is out of work but has prospects in the area that sound amazing for us both. I am so proud of him. He continues to search so hard for a job to stay near me until the wedding in December, takes care of me with my chronic illness and is getting about 50% of our wedding together on the side. We have tried to visit his family about four times this year but it’s gotten hard.
Today my man told his family that he simply couldn’t come out on a whim anymore, that my heath was declining as well as his job-searching was getting more rewarding. Time away from here, where he plans on living, is crucial and can’t be missed for long since he has at least 3 interviews with different co. each week.
Their solution? Instead of supporting their son and trying to be understanding, they told him he needed to come home this weekend so that they could ‘discuss his priorities together’ since he hadn’t got them right. WTF. Seriously? They want him to move home this year while I am here at school, saying they would pay him a little to work in their company, live at home and with the rule that he could only come see me every other week if he was able.
Do they not understand their son is about to marry me and we will be a family? I am proud of my guy to take a stand for our marriage before it even starts. It just hurts me so much to hear them yelling at him over the phone. He doesn’t need this. I have no idea what kind of response I may get from posting this, but really needed a place to write it all out.
Post # 3
I just wanted to say that your Future In-Laws sounds utterly evil and it is obvious to me that they are trying to sabotage your relationship. He is being a good Fiance and taking care of you, as well as trying his hardest to get a job to support you both. It is also obvious to me that he adores you and is really trying to start a new life with you-by moving away from his smothering parents and closer to yours. This signifies to me that he wants to get away from his parents and branch out towards what is most important- YOU! 🙂
I am sorry you are dealing with the Future In-Laws from hell, but at least you have a kind, loving man than wants nothing more than to be with you. I would discuss how this whole situation makes you feel with your Fiance (if you haven’t already) and make a decision, united, as a couple. As you said, you are getting married and will become a family, it is time for his parents to cut the apron strings.. it sounds as if your Fiance may have to do the cutting however. I wish you luck and sorry you are ill and under even more stress.
Post # 4
I’m sorry that you are sick 🙁 My thoughts and prayers are with you.
My Future In-Laws cut Fiance out of their lives completely last year because he refused to let his brother call me a white trash whore. They took his brother’s side! Things got better then worse and now are I guess tolerable. Sometimes your in-laws just suck.
You sound like you have a good man who really loves you. I’m sorry that his family is putting him through this-especially when they should be proud of him for being a good fiance and a good man.
Post # 5
Thanks, ladies. Last night hell went down and Fiance had to call all his siblings so that there was no miscommunication. His sibling said they did not understand him living away from home, they liked me however and trusted his judgement. His parents do not understand either and said ‘we’re coming down’ (to visit us). Not even asking, either. I have no idea why, but I asked FH to ask them not to since no good can come of it. They said they were concerned (about what? idk). I feel like they are treating us like children who are in trouble and have to be dealt with.
I think it may only get worse from here out. What hurts us the most is that they simply cannot be happy we are happy together and starting out on our own. FH has spend the past 5 years away from his family, some of those out of the country working. I honestly think a lot of the drama revolves around him being with me since they have never pressured him like this before.
I absolutely loathe them today and am trying to forgive enough by the time our wedding rolls around. I have no idea what their problem is but cannot fathom why they claim they don’t understand FH being with me here.