(Closed) Filing a formal complain about a coworker… first time, not too happy about it

posted 8 years ago in Career
  • poll: Would you file a formal complaint?
    Report her, you don't need to deal with this when you go to work : (64 votes)
    94 %
    Don't say anything, you don't want to stir up trouble : (4 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    3011 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @KatyElle: So sorry you have to deal with such drama at work.  I advise that you do take it with the higher ups if possible, but I understand that it can turn into a hassle.

    I’m actually going through something similiar.  I started working at my job in February. One of the girls that I work with only on the weekends is constantly rude with me.  Very snippy and telling me what I SHOULD be doing.  One, she’s not my boss.  Certain things that she askes me to do is something that has never been taught.  But instead of saying “well, let me show you..” her response was along the lines of “well, R isn’t going to be here forever and I won’t be either.  So that just leaves you.”  But her tone was unacceptable.  I didn’t say anything to anyone and just left it at that.  Unfortunately, my weekend to work is tomorrow and I can only imagine what sort of problems will occur.  If it does continue, I will be contacting my unit director to put an end to it.  I will NOT be talked down on.  I’ve brought it up with a few people and they told me that’s the way she is as well.  Sorry, not towards me.  I don’t care how long you’ve been working or who you think you are.  

    What cracks me up is that she expects me to know things in the matter of 1.5 months when she’s been there for 5+ years and is JUST learning.

    Sorry, I didn’t mean to thread jack, but I wish you the best of luck in this situation. It’s beyond ridiculous.  Everyone should just want to go to work, do what they have to, then leave.  I guess we’ll never escape the drama.

    Post # 4
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    2512 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I am sorry to hear what you are going through. Work is such a huge part of our lives and having to be bullied while there is unacceptable.

    I would check if HR has passed any sort of harrassment policy, I know that a lot of work places are JUST putting these into place recently. If so, I would address the situation as the policy has suggested.

    If there is no policy, I would write a formal letter to HR explaining the situation and requesting to meet with someone in person to discuss the situation.

    I hope all the best for you.

     

    Post # 5
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    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @KatyElle: If you complain to HR, and are fired within a certain time frame; you can sue the pants off the employer. Retalitory firing is not accepted.

    Post # 6
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    2788 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I’d go to H.r. I’m dealing with a passive aggressive coworker issue myself (have since nov also) but didn’t start addressing it until jan. Also the liability (in the eyes of the company) is with this woman, not you. Because is she isn’t being aggressive towards you she’ll do it to someone else. She’s the one with the track record for being a bully.

    Post # 7
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    2204 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    You’ve taken all the appropriate steps up until this point- not engaging her, seeking a supervisor when she behaves in this manner. However, now she is bringing this in front of customers? That’s a huge red flag to me.

    I would check your HR’s policy and call HR to discuss.

    Also- document EVERYTHING, dates/times/specific words used, etc. It’s illegal to fire someone for filing a complaint. You need to stand up for yourself.

    Post # 8
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    2788 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I’d go to H.r. I’m dealing with a passive aggressive coworker issue myself (have since nov also) but didn’t start addressing it until jan. Also the liability (in the eyes of the company) is with this woman, not you. Because if she isn’t being aggressive towards you she’ll do it to someone else. She’s the one with the track record for being a bully.

    Post # 9
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    161 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I am an HR professional.  I would encourage you to speak to your HR Department.  We typically always encourage employees to work with their direct supervisor first as many times these issues can be handled by the Supervisor.  However, it seems you’ve done that and only received temporary relief of the problem.  So the next step in dealing with a problem of this nature is to notify HR.  Your HR should take your concerns seriously and deal with them promptly.  I always encouage employees to follow up with me after they’ve made a complaint.  I cannot tell them what specific actions have been taken with the offending employee but I can at least let them know when it was addressed so that they can inform me immediately if there is a reaccurance of the bad behavior.  So that being said… file your formal complaint (in writing).  And follow up to find out if the complaint has been addressed.  Hopefully, that will take care of the issue.  If you work for a law abiding, ethical company they WILL NOT retaliate for this.  They likely already have a Problem Solving Policy/Process in place. If for some reason they do retaliate against you, there are legal actions you can take.  But I’ll believe the best in them and say you should not have to deal with that.  Good luck… and know that you are by no means the first employee to have to go to HR.  It’s their job to take care of these types of issues.

    Post # 12
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    1876 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Def report her! And make sure to be as detailed as possible. If I were you I’d do this:

    1. Write up a DETAILED list on incidents of when you’ve been harassed by this coworker. Dates, words, actions, witnesses. For example: On Saturday April 2nd, X said to me “blah blah blah.” This was done in frotn of coworker Y and a customer. I then spoke about it with Supervisor Z.” Be as detailed as possible.

    2. Call and speak with someone. Get their name, direct phone number, and e-mail.Explain the situation and discuss the incidents you wrote up. Having this written up will give you a script and ensure that you don’t forget anything.

    3. Send a follow up e-mail detailing every incident of harassement from this employee. In the e-mail make sure to say “As per our conversation earlier today…”. You want to make sure you have a paper trail of all your coorespondence with HR.

    4. After this has been done, speak with your surpervisor and let her know you reported your colleague. Explain that after the most recent indicident you felt the harassement had gone to far and wanted to speak with HR.

     

    Best of luck!

    Post # 13
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    1325 posts
    Bumble bee

    Yes report her! Remain logical (which is sounds like you work from logic anyway) and present your facts. All the PP have given you great tips on how to do this.

    I just want to say that you shoud never take the excuse of “Oh hahaha that’s just how that person is, she has a temper, just ignore her.” Not with anyone in life professional or personal.

    I think that is such a BS excuse for people’s bad behavior. It in no way holds the offender responsible for their actions. Seriously when someone gives an excuse like this for someone’s behavior I hear “Oh.. yes… She is a raging bitch. Tolerate it to make her happy so we don’t have to deal with her.”

    Post # 14
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    46670 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I concur with @PunkinLover:‘s advice. The unfortunate reality that you should be aware of however, is despite well -meaning advice that you have grounds for a lawsuit if you’re fired, many companies count on the fact that most hourly paid employees cannot afford to launch a suit.

    Post # 15
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    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @julies1949: And many times larger companies won’t even show up to court and you win by default. 🙂

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