(Closed) Filipino Brides: What do you think about a modern day 'Pamanhikan'??

posted 4 years ago in South East Asian
Post # 3
589 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Scottish Rite Cathedral (New Castle, PA)

@eena_banana:  my FI and I live together so we hosted both sets of parents and we did the cooking. Both sets brought small things wine or a dessert but low stress since they weren’t hosting. would it be possible for you to host so neither side feels the pressure? I think meeting at a restaurant would be fine too! I know for us though we had most of the getting to know each other after dinner, my mom and FMIL helped clean up and chatted in the kitchen while FI, my dad and FFIL chatted over a ball game in the living room. 🙂

Post # 4
228 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

When my parents and fiancé’s parents and grandmother (he’s Vietnamese and I’m a Filipina) met for the first time, we just all met up at a restaurant. My fiancé paid. Both our parents are very traditional, but they didn’t mind having a casual lunch for their first meet up. We liked the fact that it was just the 5 of us and no other family members. It was more intimate, and we truly enjoyed the conversation…and food!

Do what you think you’re most comfortable with. I’m not sure where you live, but here in Southern CA, many couples choose to be more casual when it comes to doing traditions even when their parents are very traditional. 

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