(Closed) Filipino Brides!

posted 10 years ago in South East Asian
Post # 3
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Blushing bee

haha… cool. first time to look at the cultural boards and i see this post. there’s gotta be more of us out there.

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

Fi and I are both half Filipino and half caucasion. I would love to incorporate some Filipino traditions but with us having a real casual wedding and either of us being real religious (let alone catholic) I’m not sure how much, if any, we’ll do.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Hi All!

 I’m full Filipino, and Fi is Methodist, and my parents want a full out Filipino wedding.  So, we’re trying to keep everyone comfortable by using songs in the ceremony that are used by both religions.  And not doing the offering of flowers to Mary, to the objections of my parents.  

 

Speaking of parents, did yours tell you certain Filipino superstitions? Like…

1. Not trying your dress on before the wedding.  I did, and my mom was berated by her sisters.  Good thing I did though, since it needed alterations!

2.  Closed toed shoes for the ceremony and putting coins in your shoes?  

 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Hi Pinay Bees!  I’m full filipino and fiance is caucasian.  Kateri – my dad said it was unlucky to wear my dress before the wedding too.  hehe

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

wow– i didnt know about the not trying on dress…  like that’s really gonna happen! haha!

aside from the cord, veil, candle – we’re not really incorporating any other "filipino" deets…

def NOT doing the money dance (ick!) or the closed-toe shoes with coins or having 8-10 sets of godparents… i’m only choosing 2 or 3 sets of godparents, the ones i’m closest to…

i’m catholic, as most filipinos are; my fh is lutheran and not filipino – he’s black… not sure if we’re doin the "jumping the broom" as in the african-american weddings…

 

 

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

I totally tried on my dress a million times before the wedding because of alterations. I hope it’s really not bad luck!

I am getting married tomorrow, but I’m still not sure what the money dance is… kind of scary, but my grandfather’s insisting on it. What is it???!

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2008

CONGRATS NiftyBa!

There are a few ‘versions’ of the money dance out there…

1.  Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man collect money in baskets so guests ‘pay’ to dance with the bride or groom

2.  Guests pin money onto your dress and your husbands (!) tux or barong or whatever he is decked out in 

3.  You can make a faux sash out of the money and guests fold the bills into rings and attatch it to the sash.

4. ‘Curacha’ style where someone ‘captures’ the bride or groom (w/ a napkin or just holds them, puts them in a chair etc.) and people pay for that person to release them.

On another board a good idea (if you have time!) is to put out little pin cushions on each table with a note explaining the money dance to individuals who do not know.  Its also a Southern Tradition called the ‘apron dance’ 

 

Hope that helped!  

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

oh i feel super-filipino because we’re doing the whole shabang with the candle, cord, veil thing, AND the money dance. Fiance and i are both filipino so it’s a complete given. my mom told me about not trying on the wedding dress too, but that’s not happening.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m caucasian but my fiance is Filipino and incorporating lots of Filipino traditions: money dance, cord/coin/veil, sponsors, and a Filipino dessert buffet served after the wedding cake. Filipino culture is so warm and celebratory and I feel lucky to be able to share in those traditions.

Post # 12
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Wannabee

Both of us are Filipino (I was born there, he was born here).  I was thinking of having him and the groomsmen wear barongs at the reception but we decided against it since it was too much of a hassle to get everyone’s size and to get them ordered from the Philippines.  We’ve opted not to do the money dance, but will be doing the cord/coin/veil. 

Post # 13
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Hi, I’m full and my fiance is caucasion.  We’re only doing the unity candle.  Do any of you have suggestions for make-up artists in the Los Angeles area?  Also, besides TFC magazines, where else do you look for hair and make-up inspirational pics?

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2008

i’m filipino too and my Fiance is not but we’re doing the traditional veil, cord, candle and having sponsors too! so we had to explain what sponsors were to his side and they were all honored.  we told them sponsors are more like "godparents" and we chose people that we find have been there for us and go to for advice.  we’re doing the money dance and a lot of different cultures do it, it’s nothing new. 

originially, i wanted my mom and dad to wear traditional filipino outfits like the barong tagalog and mistisa (can’t spell) dress but that didn’t happen.

since i’m catholic and he’s christian i wanted to honor both by having two officiants at the wedding. the only thing we’re not doing is the full mass with with the host. 

for the reception, we’re having lumpia and turon for the appetizers.  then for dancing, i’m sure if we put on a cha-cha song folks will get up and do the "filipino cha-cha" or do line dancing! LOL

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

like snmcdowell,  I’m caucasian and my fiance is filipino.  We’re doing the cord, veil and unity candle.  We aren’t having sponsors, though.  I would have liked to, but he really didn’t want to.  Future Mother-In-Law wasn’t too happy about that.  😛  We’re doing what we can to appease both my and his sides of the family.

Post # 16
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: May 2009

hello! i’m filipina and my fiance is filipino/puerto rican. we’re planning to do the veil/cord/coin/candle ceremonies. as for the money dance… we won’t be doing the money thing, but since it’s such a nice way for us to spend a little one on one time with some of the guests, we may be doing a little twist on the tradition…

i was never one of those little girls who always dreamt about her wedding day, but the one thing i thought i would definitely want was to give those little capiz shell boxes filled with candy as wedding favors , just like every other filipino wedding i’d ever been to. but now that i’m actually planning my wedding, it’s not likely that we will.. only because we have some other ideas for favors.

are any of you giving filipino themed favors?  

 

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