(Closed) Filled with uncertainty

posted 9 years ago in Career
Post # 3
108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I am so in that boat! 

I’ve been in grad school for 3 years now, got out in January, and planned on saving from Jan – Aug so that I would have some money to spend on the wedding. Counted on it, booked stuff, etc – we are seriously down the rabbit hole now. I mean, someone must want to hire a person with a graduate degree in the environmental feild, right?

Wrong. Still unemployed, and the FH and I have started using credit cards again. BUMMER. I feel ya sister. Hang tough, maybe we can all pull out of this financially trying time eventually. That seniment still doesn’t help either of our wedding plans, though, does it?

Post # 4
694 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Almost what happened to us, before you decide anything, look at the penalty clauses if any. You might have to pay a percentage, for example, your caterer or venue, of the final amount you were to pay.

We just came to conclusion this winter that there was no way we would be able to save 30K just for a wedding, let alone a house. You just have to decide what is important to you, for me and him, it was a house and starting a family sooner rather than later. We’re going to Vegas next year for a combined "elopement" (immediate family are coming with us) and honeymoon (which we would not have been able to afford with our big wedding).

So, we lost the deposit with our venue, not that much, but so much better than struggling to save 9k alone for food! However, our photographer was very nice and we are using our deposit with them for engagment pictures which is awesome because their photography is the only thing I am sad about missing out on on our wedding day. 🙂

Good luck to you, just make a list of pros and cons- your goals, your family reactions, your savings plan and what you’ll lose with deposits and your sanity, it will all work out for you!

Post # 5
57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’m sorry to hear that! Is there any way you can keep your vendors (and therefore your deposits) but scale back? Like invite fewer people, have smaller flower arrangments, etc?

Even if you do have to elope, don’t worry about criticism or embarrassment! Times are so tough right now and no one will look down on you if you don’t have an elaborate wedding.


Post # 6
118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I can totally feel your frustration. I lost my job over a month ago and we are now really struggling abotu how to come up with all of the money. One blessing is that my Fiance has a good job and my prents are willing to contribute, but my loss of income has really put a damper on our plans.

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