- 4 years ago
A while back, FI made his side’s guest list and included family friends, co-workers, and all of the family he could think of to invite that his parents would invite. This number was around 70ish people. Well, FI sent it to his parents to add anyone he might have forgotten. They don’t have a big family so I wasn’t expecting the guest list to grow by that much.
Well, the guest list came back and doubled in size. Now, some of those are from out of state and most likely won’t be coming, but I’m guessing we have to prepare as if everyone is coming because we’ve all heard too many stories about brides getting more people show up than expected.
I don’t know who these extra people are, but I am assuming since FI has heard my side mention a big wedding ~300 or so (which isn’t exact at all, just a guess) that he told his parents that # and they assumed that half the guest list was theirs.
If I’m guessing, dinner will probably come about to about $50 per head, not including drinks. My parents have generously offered to pay for the wedding and FIs parents aren’t contributing in that aspect. I think they are planning on assuming traditional roles where the grooms family pays for the rehearsal dinner and honeymoon, which is great and appreciated.
Is it weird that it rubs me the wrong way that they just invited all of these extra people (like family they don’t speak to and work ppl/friends?) and it’ll cost ~7k just to feed that side? My parents haven’t made their guest list yet and I am assuming it’d be about 250 or so (more than FIs because we have a bigger fam), so everything is adding up quick.
Do I ask them to make an A list/B list and if enough ppl decline from A, then we can invite people from the B list? I think my parents were thinking of doing this for their side as well. Do I ask them to cut the list? Not to sound like a b***, but I don’t want them thinking they should just invite random ppl just to fill their share of the guest list. Not to mention, his side is coming from out of town (drive-able distance) and given that, I’m assuming most will leave soon after dinner and then our wedding will look empty and we’ll lose the party atmosphere.
I know I’ll probably get flamed for sounding like a brat, but I’m just protective of my side and don’t like feeling like they are getting steamrolled, especially since his side isn’t helping with the actual wedding.
What do you think bees? Am I overreacting? Should I just let it go? Should I say that we weren’t anticipating that many ppl given FIs original guest list and were budgeting for more like 100?