(Closed) FILs and $$

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I was in the exact same situation. I never ended up bringing it up but about a month ago- 4 months to the wedding- Future Mother-In-Law offered to pay for the flowers, which comes out about equal to what my parents contributed. I just was sure to keep her up to date on all plans and I think that encouraged her. Good luck with everything!

Post # 4
418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I would think that if they knew about the wedding and wanted to contribute they would offer to do so. I don’t think there is any polite way to ask someone to help you pay for your wedding, but if you want to try, I would definitely have your Fiance do it, since it is his family.

Post # 5
155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I would think they would have offered already, but seeing as they haven’t I would have a talk with your Fiance and let him know he needs to be the one to ask.

Post # 6
3049 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Ugh, I’m in this situation right now. Not so much about paying for the wedding… but the rehearsal dinner. My FIL’s are catering the wedding, and we want to know if my parents should pay for food and labor, or if they want to do it themselves. We’ve asked for about two months now… and as I’m typing this my Fiance texted me saying the finally said we just need to pay for labor. Finally! Still don’t know about the rehearsal dinner though… oh well.

I think your Fiance should be the one to ask. Just keep reminding him (like I did) to ask them. Everytime my Fiance asked, they jumped around the subject and said, “We’ll let you know sometime this week”. So be prepared to not have an answer right away.

Post # 7
3378 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’d have a talk with Fiance and let him know he needs to have this conversation with his parents.  We’re still trying to nail down the budget, and for the last week or two I’ve been prodding (he might say nagging) Fiance to talk to his parents and plant that seed of “Are you planning on contributing to the wedding budget?  Think about how much you’d like to contribute.”  He finally talked to them a few days ago, and they’re going over their finances to see what will work for them.  I think it’s his place to talk to them, but be ready to wait a little while.  Finances are not an easy thing to figure out.

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