(Closed) FIL’s comments about money! (stupid vent)

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would def say something. If she feels like $15k isn’t a lot of money then she should contribute. If not, then she needs to shut it. 

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yes, I agree with you: rude comment. I wouldn’t go out of my way to call her up and talk about the comment, but rather I would wait and see if she mentions it again. If so, I would politely say something like “well, this is our budget and we are firm on it” and move on. Maybe even find a way that you would love any and all help (if she cannot pitch in) to help keep costs down like helping with crafts or decorations.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

It’s a fine line, but I do think its important to set these boundaries early in the marriage. If she says something again, I would make sure to let jer know that you, your fiance and your father have set a budget that you’re happy with and that you want to stick to that out of respect for everyone involved.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I don’t think you want to spend the rest of your life afraid to speak your mind for fear that she won’t like you. I would let your fi say something to her because that was incredibly rude. He should be the one to deal with these comments.

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