- Miss Mochaccino
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
I really love my Future In-Laws in general. They are amazing people and i couldn’t ask for better in so many ways. I also realize that no one is perfect. The fact that I get along with them on so many levels is something I’m grateful for.
Having said that, they do have a strong influence over my Fiance. Recently, we were all out to eat, and my Future Father-In-Law mentioned that he wanted to go on a vacation during his birthday month, which is one of the times we were considering having the wedding (not on his birthday, but just during that month). Then, my Future Mother-In-Law started saying that I seemed sooo hurried to get married, and asking what is all the rush about? Why hurry? Why rush? Why not wait until late summer instead of having a spring wedding?
The thing is, my Fiance and I live over 2 hours apart right now. We just want to be together, and since we won’t live togehter before marriage, this makes things tough. We have been a couple for over 2.5 years. We haven’t rushed anything, but now we just want to be married. It just makes things awkward, because my Fiance, who was previously excited for a spring wedding, is now saying, “Why rush? Why are you trying to set the date so soon?” Before Future Mother-In-Law started saying all of this stuff about how she wanted us to get married in late summer Fiance was the one pushing for an earlier date and I was the one who said let’s at least give ourselves 4 months of wedding planning.
Now, my Fiance is asking me questions like, “Is there some reason that you’re in such a hurry to set the date?” “Why can’t we have the wedding in July or August instead of spring?” and only a couple of weeks ago HE was the one saying 6 month engagements are crazy and we just need to be together ASAP. He was impatient to get married from the moment he proposed, and I was the one telling him that we want to at least do our wedding a bit of justice and give it come thought and planning for at least a few months.
I know this is just something I have to work out with my Fiance, but the fact that his parents are now trying to influence our date (and a side effect might mean that we are apart longer) is just really making things difficult. It’s just so tricky because when I try to talk to him about this type of thing, he often sees it as me attacking his family. I know he needs to make our little unit his #1 priority and he is trying, but I don’t think he realizes how influenced he is by my Future In-Laws.