(Closed) FIl's making me regret booking photobooth

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: Crichton Church, Dumfries, Scotland

How rude! It was a gift and also it’s a wedding and being vulgar and rude about anyone ESPECIALLY THE BRIDE is totally inappropriate! Any chance of slipping them a laxative or 10 the day before? 😉 would hope good manners will prevail and they’ll keep it clean though, sense of occaision and all that. This would really annoy me! I don’t really have any constructive help I’m sorry! X

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

They won’t “ruin” the photo booth unless you let them. If you stop giving immature people attention when they misbehave, they usually stop misbehaving.

PS your FI’S siblings are your FMIL’s children. She will pretty much always side with them over you. When you call out their bad behavior, she feels like you are attacking them, and by extension, attacking her. Pick your battles. Photo booth ain’t one of them.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

have you spoken to the company about your concerns? maybe they can tell your fiance’s family that any inappropriate language/photos will be deleted and if they persist they will not be allowed to take advantage of the service

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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Pickle7:  why don’t you call the company and change to a photo booth only? see if they can use the difference in $$ for another hour/upgraded photos, whatever. 

don’t say anything about it, there simply won’t be a video portion at the wedding.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

um – sorry, but a photobooth at an event with an open bar is generally going to capture some things you don’t really want to see. Just don’t let it get to you. Save the images/videos you want to your computer and then throw out the CD that has the stuff you don’t like if it’s that offensive to you. Honestly the more you talk about it, the more they’ll be set on doing something awful. Just let it go. Trust me – the photobooth attendent has seen worse. Don’t worry about them. Don’t worry about it at all. They aren’t going to “ruin” the photobooth unless they’re so awful that they knock it over. You’ll still get plenty of fun photos of the rest of your family and friends. Let this go.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Ugh, your inlaws sound really crass.

However, I”d deal with this by just dropping it.  Will the photobooth company be doing any editing before you recieve the video?  If so could you give them a heads up and ask them to delete anything vulgar or off colour so you don’t have to see it?  If not, could you ask and husband  go through the videos before you see them and delete anything that’s unseemly when you recieve the disk?

The fact of the matter is that while they are being rude, you can’t control what other people do.  Just delete what you don’t want to see and don’t make it your problem to try to have them behave appropriately.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I agree with PP, photo booth videos are not necessities. I would just eliminate that portion if I was truly concerned.

I have to say, though, that unless they are truly barbaric and dislike their brother as much as they dislike you, they were probably going to have fun but keep it clean. You may have upped the ante by bringing up their needing to keep the vulgarity in check (given them the idea to really act out), not to mention possibly added another item to their list of reason’s they dislike you.

Finally, I hope that these are not adults causing such an uproar over their awful behavior. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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Pickle7:  when they said they were already planning a “really awesome video” that was your cue to laugh and make a joke of it with them. It sounds like they are a nightmare, but honestly, I can’t imagine a situation in which jumping in to ask people “not to be vulgar” before they actually do anything is going to go down well. It can’t be done without coming across as a judgy, joyless prig and provoking people. “Vulgar” like “common” or “trashy” is aways offensive and usually reflects more badly on the person using such words than the object of them. It carries connotations of class, not just behaviour, unlike the word “rude”. 

Next time you’re together with them all, I’d apologise for being a bit humourless and say that it is just the stress of planning. You want them to have fun and can’t wait to see their video. Don’t let them get a rise out of you, if they see it doesn’t work and that you are chilled and trusting them, they are unlikely to have a go at you on the video. However be aware that some male friends of the Groom may use the booth to have a jokey go at him, – it’s a kind of male bonding and not offensive, a bit in the tradition of the Best Man’s speech which should be funny and at the expense of the Groom. They won’t say anything negative about you, but try not to be sensitive if they are about your fiancé. Personally, I think a bit of affectionate ribbing is a welcome antidote to the repetitious mushy stuff you will get from other guests. 

In the worst case scenario, I’m sure you can get it edited out. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee

Videos can be edited. Not a big fuss. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think they’re just talking smack to get a rise out of you.

 

 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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Pickle7:  if they really do that, just edit it out of your DVD but post it on facebook.”For a laugh”

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I thought you were concerned about them telling inappropriate/embarrassing stories about you on video. I wouldn’t be the least bit concerned about them dropping their pants in the photo booth. If they expose themselves, that can easily be edited out and is in no way a negative reflection upon you or your husband. I would however be sure to share the full, unedited version with their mom, without comment Or judgement. Having his mom see him expose his balls in photo booth, might cure Brother-In-Law of his attention seeking exhibitionism. 

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