Post # 1
This is mostly a vent because I am just so tired of FI’s family. His mom was very gracious and gave us money to get a photo booth for the wedding. I did all the research and booked it. We found a really awesome company that does photos and videos. I was super excited about it but was worried about how FI’S siblings would handle the videos. They aren’t my biggest fans and are very vulgar people. FI said he would ask them to be respectful when using the photobooth. They of course made their jokes and said they were already planning an awesome video. Whatever that means, it just made me more worried. I jumped in at that point and said I would really appreciate it if they could stay away from being vulgar because I didn’t want the people working it to be uncomfortable and I didn’t want those kinds of videos being made at our wedding. Well at that point Future Mother-In-Law jumps in and tells them that she paid for it so they could do whatever they wanted! Who says that!? Now they think they can do whatever the heck they want and it’ll be ok. We already talked to Future Mother-In-Law and we are keeping the CD so we will be the ones with the videos not her. She may have paid for it but as a gift and now she is using the money to give his siblings free range to be vulgar jerks.
Can you think of anything Fiance and I can do to stop his siblings from trying to ruin the photobooth? Honestly I really regret booking it now 🙁
Post # 2
- Wedding: Crichton Church, Dumfries, Scotland
How rude! It was a gift and also it’s a wedding and being vulgar and rude about anyone ESPECIALLY THE BRIDE is totally inappropriate! Any chance of slipping them a laxative or 10 the day before? 😉 would hope good manners will prevail and they’ll keep it clean though, sense of occaision and all that. This would really annoy me! I don’t really have any constructive help I’m sorry! X
Post # 3
They won’t “ruin” the photo booth unless you let them. If you stop giving immature people attention when they misbehave, they usually stop misbehaving.
PS your FI’S siblings are your FMIL’s children. She will pretty much always side with them over you. When you call out their bad behavior, she feels like you are attacking them, and by extension, attacking her. Pick your battles. Photo booth ain’t one of them.
Post # 4
have you spoken to the company about your concerns? maybe they can tell your fiance’s family that any inappropriate language/photos will be deleted and if they persist they will not be allowed to take advantage of the service
Post # 5
why don’t you call the company and change to a photo booth only? see if they can use the difference in $$ for another hour/upgraded photos, whatever.
don’t say anything about it, there simply won’t be a video portion at the wedding.
Post # 6
um – sorry, but a photobooth at an event with an open bar is generally going to capture some things you don’t really want to see. Just don’t let it get to you. Save the images/videos you want to your computer and then throw out the CD that has the stuff you don’t like if it’s that offensive to you. Honestly the more you talk about it, the more they’ll be set on doing something awful. Just let it go. Trust me – the photobooth attendent has seen worse. Don’t worry about them. Don’t worry about it at all. They aren’t going to “ruin” the photobooth unless they’re so awful that they knock it over. You’ll still get plenty of fun photos of the rest of your family and friends. Let this go.
Post # 7
Ugh, your inlaws sound really crass.
However, I”d deal with this by just dropping it. Will the photobooth company be doing any editing before you recieve the video? If so could you give them a heads up and ask them to delete anything vulgar or off colour so you don’t have to see it? If not, could you ask and husband go through the videos before you see them and delete anything that’s unseemly when you recieve the disk?
The fact of the matter is that while they are being rude, you can’t control what other people do. Just delete what you don’t want to see and don’t make it your problem to try to have them behave appropriately.
Post # 8
I agree with PP, photo booth videos are not necessities. I would just eliminate that portion if I was truly concerned.
I have to say, though, that unless they are truly barbaric and dislike their brother as much as they dislike you, they were probably going to have fun but keep it clean. You may have upped the ante by bringing up their needing to keep the vulgarity in check (given them the idea to really act out), not to mention possibly added another item to their list of reason’s they dislike you.
Finally, I hope that these are not adults causing such an uproar over their awful behavior.
Post # 9
when they said they were already planning a “really awesome video” that was your cue to laugh and make a joke of it with them. It sounds like they are a nightmare, but honestly, I can’t imagine a situation in which jumping in to ask people “not to be vulgar” before they actually do anything is going to go down well. It can’t be done without coming across as a judgy, joyless prig and provoking people. “Vulgar” like “common” or “trashy” is aways offensive and usually reflects more badly on the person using such words than the object of them. It carries connotations of class, not just behaviour, unlike the word “rude”.
Next time you’re together with them all, I’d apologise for being a bit humourless and say that it is just the stress of planning. You want them to have fun and can’t wait to see their video. Don’t let them get a rise out of you, if they see it doesn’t work and that you are chilled and trusting them, they are unlikely to have a go at you on the video. However be aware that some male friends of the Groom may use the booth to have a jokey go at him, – it’s a kind of male bonding and not offensive, a bit in the tradition of the Best Man’s speech which should be funny and at the expense of the Groom. They won’t say anything negative about you, but try not to be sensitive if they are about your fiancé. Personally, I think a bit of affectionate ribbing is a welcome antidote to the repetitious mushy stuff you will get from other guests.
In the worst case scenario, I’m sure you can get it edited out.
Post # 10
Videos can be edited. Not a big fuss.
Post # 11
My real problem is that I could really care less about what they say. We brought attention to it because the week before they were talking about dropping their pants for pictures. I’m not sorry if I seem uptight but I do not want to see his brother’s junk or his sister’s bobs when looking through videos people made. I don’t care how much you goof around or what you are okay with, pulling stunts like that are just wrong and I wish I could trust them to behave on a day like this but they have proven themselves time and again to be untrustworthy. Fiance is just as worried and it was his idea to talk to them and since they were already planning something I doubt they would choose not to do it even if we didn’t say anything.
And I have no concerns about his groomsmen because they know where the boundaries are when it comes to stuff like this.
Post # 12
I think they’re just talking smack to get a rise out of you.
Post # 13
if they really do that, just edit it out of your DVD but post it on facebook.”For a laugh”
Post # 14
I thought you were concerned about them telling inappropriate/embarrassing stories about you on video. I wouldn’t be the least bit concerned about them dropping their pants in the photo booth. If they expose themselves, that can easily be edited out and is in no way a negative reflection upon you or your husband. I would however be sure to share the full, unedited version with their mom, without comment Or judgement. Having his mom see him expose his balls in photo booth, might cure Brother-In-Law of his attention seeking exhibitionism.