(Closed) FILs offered to pay for the alcohol – do they choose what type??

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Just give him the list of what you need

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Those who pay have a say 🙂  I think if any requests/suggestions are to be made, they should be made by your Fiance since it’s HIS family.  Be prepared for them to kindly disregard your wishes, and since they are paying, it’s their call.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Unfortunately, once you take money from someone, their opinion counts.  You have to take their opinions into consideration and go with it, but you can also start out by giving guidelines, like “FI and I wanted to do beer and wine only, maybe if you wanted we could do a signature drink…” and go from there.  But you have to give them a say once you take their money,

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Of course them paying gives them a say, but since this is sort of a gift to you, you get a say, too. Talk to them about what you’re comfortable and try to find a middle ground.

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